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Old 01-24-2013, 08:23 PM
 
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If you were once "best friends" with someone, but had a falling out, would you still keep the secrets he/she told you to yourself or you would no longer feel a responsibility to that person?

I am talking about adults and not kids or even teenagers.

What do you think of people who do tell secrets of an ex-friend?
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Old 01-24-2013, 08:44 PM
 
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No. You didn't just give your word to your ex-friend. You gave your word to yourself. Integrity is not conditional.
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Old 01-24-2013, 08:45 PM
 
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I would keep the secrets - it was made during a friendship and conveyed in trust. I am a person of my word - I might be done with you, but being petty, breaking a confidence just for revenge reflects poorly on me - not them.
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Old 01-24-2013, 08:53 PM
 
Location: Aiken, South Carolina, US of A
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I would keep a secret for anyone if they told me not to ever tell anyone.
I don't care if I have a falling out or not.
If I tell someone I will keep a secret, I keep a secret.
Period.
I don't tell secrets to anyone that I don't absolutely trust.
I expect the person who holds my secret to never tell either.
Thems the rules.
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:04 PM
 
Location: San Marcos, TX
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I agree with the previous posters. A secret is a secret. Unless telling it would save a life or something (in which case I'd tell regardless of friend status)..

I sure know things about my ex-husband that I bet he wouldn't want me blabbing and I hope he doesn't tell my "secrets" either, just because we are no longer together and don't even talk to each other.
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:04 PM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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Yes, I would keep their secrets even if we had a falling out. It's the right thing to do. If you are told something in confidence and then reveal it that speaks poorly of you. You are either trustworthy or you're not.
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:06 PM
 
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Talking This all depends...

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Originally Posted by luckygirl15 View Post
If you were once "best friends" with someone, but had a falling out, would you still keep the secrets he/she told you to yourself or you would no longer feel a responsibility to that person?

I am talking about adults and not kids or even teenagers.

What do you think of people who do tell secrets of an ex-friend?
it depends on whether or not I dumped them as a friend or if they dumped me. If I dumped them,
then, yes, I would hold all secrets confidential..however... if they dumped me...all gloves are off and
I am happy to blab everything I know...and probably even embellish them a tad and deny it...lol
Koale
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Australia
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It depends.

Not enough information.

The choice depends on what she did, what she said, what she caused, what telling may cause, and what you suffered at her hands.

On balance I'd say forget it...but I would almost certainly stick the knife in at some later stage if the opportunity arose.

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Yeah I know but I have a moon in Scorpio. It's not my fault I have a vengeful streak and a memory like an elephant.
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:15 PM
 
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Yes. To reveal what was given to you in confidence just to hurt them would be immoral.

The bigger question is why you would choose to do this? What do you think you will gain?
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Old 01-24-2013, 09:22 PM
 
Location: Staten Island, New York
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Of course.
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