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Old 02-15-2013, 11:05 PM
 
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Whether it be spending or time with a significant other, friends, co workers, parents, etc OR alone... which do you prefer? If you are alone often, do you wish it'd change? Or do you think you spend too much time with others and don't enough "me" time?
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Old 02-16-2013, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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Whether it be spending or time with a significant other, friends, co workers, parents, etc OR alone... which do you prefer? If you are alone often, do you wish it'd change? Or do you think you spend too much time with others and don't enough "me" time?
I do wish that could change but I'm not sure if it will or not. My lack of trust in people is at an all-time low. That started with my ex and I breaking up almost 6 years ago and carried through some recent childish backstabbing in work places.

The latter happened again early this week when a co-worker ran her mouth to the boss and bad-mouthed me, stating a rumor that isn't true. I'm new and it's the last thing I need.

Incidents like those mentioned makes me feel that maybe I am better off being alone.
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Old 02-16-2013, 08:44 AM
 
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I do wish that could change but I'm not sure if it will or not. My lack of trust in people is at an all-time low. That started with my ex and I breaking up almost 6 years ago and carried through some recent childish backstabbing in work places.

The latter happened again early this week when a co-worker ran her mouth to the boss and bad-mouthed me, stating a rumor that isn't true. I'm new and it's the last thing I need.

Incidents like those mentioned makes me feel that maybe I am better off being alone.
I definitely feel that. Petty things in your day to day life can really get to you sometimes
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Old 02-16-2013, 09:00 AM
 
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Petty things in your day to day life can really get to you sometimes
I feel exactly like this. I am so disappointed in the poor quality and ill-mannered people I've been meeting lately, that it's better to be lonely than annoyed.
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Old 02-16-2013, 01:30 PM
 
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I feel exactly like this. I am so disappointed in the poor quality and ill-mannered people I've been meeting lately, that it's better to be lonely than annoyed.
Yes!!!!!! So much this. You're like my twin right now lol
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Old 02-16-2013, 02:46 PM
 
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When I was very young, I noticed that people I admired, often failed to live up to my expectations. It's difficult to know who can be trusted to do what they say they will do, which causes me to rely on longterm friendships. It's nice to meet new people, but, only time will let me know if they are keepers. Fortunately, being alone is enjoyable, but, I get out regularly to be with friends.
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Old 02-18-2013, 01:25 AM
 
Location: California
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I need a lot of down time/alone time and don't have a crazy active social life now that I have a job. I don't miss it too much, I talk to people all day long. I only go out socially with my friends a couple times a month. A few people I know can't stand the idea that I go home to be alone and read or watch tv, they tell me I need to "get a life" as they are always on the go or doing something. I think some people are afraid to be alone with themselves and their thoughts so they don't want to stop, don't want to slow down, need constant activities and distractions. To each their own.
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Old 02-18-2013, 02:50 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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I agree-some seem to fear being alone...they must do something or be with someone at all times...and are the types that do not understand those of us who prefer time to ourselves.

Like OP, I enjoy staying home and reading, watching movies, cooking, hanging out with my cats. I need a tremendous amount of time alone and always have...but I do go out often with friends to plays, concerts etc.




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I need a lot of down time/alone time and don't have a crazy active social life now that I have a job. I don't miss it too much, I talk to people all day long. I only go out socially with my friends a couple times a month. A few people I know can't stand the idea that I go home to be alone and read or watch tv, they tell me I need to "get a life" as they are always on the go or doing something. I think some people are afraid to be alone with themselves and their thoughts so they don't want to stop, don't want to slow down, need constant activities and distractions. To each their own.
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Old 02-23-2013, 12:50 AM
 
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Ever since a dear friend of mine of 15 years abruptly left my life so fast that my head spun with my confusion, and completely ex-communicated me out of her life, I have a VERY hard time trusting people now. Yes, I am very sad about being alone a lot, but I have my boyfriend and I am super busy with school, so I really have no choice but to be alone when I study all the time. Its sad, but I just tell myself that I need to be patient. I'm sure the right people will come along.
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Old 02-23-2013, 09:34 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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I like alone time. With family chaos and drama, I really do enjoy the quiet. My career was nothing but insanity so I grabbed any free time I could. Now retired, I really enjoy getting away from it all. In 40 minutes I can be at 11,000 feet trout fishing and not see another person all day long.
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