U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
 
Old 02-20-2013, 10:04 PM
 
Location: SoCal
6,063 posts, read 9,524,350 times
Reputation: 5789

Advertisements

I don't see too many of the posters here in this description, but sometimes it sorta' veers in that direction. So it's a good (and entertaining, IMO) reminder ...

20 Things That Ain?t None of Your Business
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 02-20-2013, 10:22 PM
 
Location: Western Colorado
11,083 posts, read 12,464,975 times
Reputation: 26091
I woulda read that, but it's none of my business.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 10:15 AM
 
3,319 posts, read 3,020,340 times
Reputation: 4808
In other words, mind your own business.

BTW, if ain't means isn't and none means zero, then ain't none means there isn't zero, so there is some. LOL
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 10:35 AM
 
Location: NoVa
18,433 posts, read 29,481,395 times
Reputation: 19625
Well, I just read the 1-20 but not the paragraphs underneath each one.

While I truly agree with most of these things, and unless someone asks me my input, I don't get in their business.

A big problem with things like that is Face Book. You can find numbers 1-20 blasted all over peoples fb pages on any given day beckoning you to be in their business....

I stay out of it then too.

OP has someone been getting all up in your business these days?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 03:48 PM
 
Location: The Jar
20,068 posts, read 14,429,324 times
Reputation: 36811
Quote:
Originally Posted by jim9251 View Post
I woulda read that, but it's none of my business.
What he said^^^
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 05:20 PM
 
Location: SoCal
6,063 posts, read 9,524,350 times
Reputation: 5789
Quote:
Originally Posted by Pikantari View Post
Well, I just read the 1-20 but not the paragraphs underneath each one.

While I truly agree with most of these things, and unless someone asks me my input, I don't get in their business.

A big problem with things like that is Face Book. You can find numbers 1-20 blasted all over peoples fb pages on any given day beckoning you to be in their business....

I stay out of it then too.

OP has someone been getting all up in your business these days?
Not mine, because I'm pretty good at setting and enforcing limits. I found it amusing, though. I do know some people who could use some quotes out of this because they have busybodies harrassing them, so I figured maybe other people here might find it helpful, or at least amusing.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 06:52 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
10,234 posts, read 13,981,012 times
Reputation: 25884
Well, I'm looking at it from a different angle. When someone posts anything having to do with anything on a public forum, no matter how big or small, innocuous or heavily personal. . . you are making it everybody's business.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-21-2013, 10:35 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
7,724 posts, read 9,021,232 times
Reputation: 11086
This should be posted at every workplace for nosy coworkers to read. It should also be a rule on Facebook not to post about these things.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-22-2013, 04:23 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
8,897 posts, read 13,651,876 times
Reputation: 11524
I do agree with a lot of the points... however...

Quote:
2) GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S WALLETS.
I know it is really hard to not care how much other people make. We all like to compare our own income to everyone else’s for some reason, and it isn’t healthy. Nobody’s worth is tied to money, even though we all think it is, so let’s stop trying to assign value to it.
When it might be your business: Feel free to care (very much) if your six year old walks in with a fat wad of big bills. You also have my permission to stuff singles down my undies and ask me how much I’ve made off you so far.
How about when your friend keeps asking to "borrow" money and never pays you back? Actually, I still don't care how much money they make, I care about how/where they are spending it. Maybe if they hadn't bought that tablet AND Kindle, they probably could have paid me back the 80 they owe me. Or how about the time I lent them 20 because I thought it was for something important, like food or rent or utilities. Instead, I come to find out it was for some PAYG phone credit. Um, no, I'm sorry but you can live without these things. You don't need a tablet, you don't need a Kindle, you don't even need a cell phone!

And yes, I know I also don't need to lend them the money and believe me, I'm not anymore. And hey, if they want to spend THEIR money on something they can't afford, I agree that's their business (this is number 8 on the list), not mine. But when it's MY money, and especially when they haven't paid me back, I think it IS my business.

Quote:
7) GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S SICKNESSES.
Every time I mention that I have a headache, or that I see stars, or that my butt hurts, or that I’m sweating acid, everyone knows exactly what’s wrong with me, and exactly what I need to do to fix it. I know the internet has made everyone experts, but we’re not. Half the time my doctor doesn’t even know and he went to school for twelve years and studied nothing but how to fix my ailments.
When it might be your business: The day you walk in for a job interview at a doctor’s office, and they ask you what your credentials are, and you say, “I know my way around WebMD,” and they say, “welcome aboard doctor!” That’s the day I want your diagnoses and witch cures.
Ehhh, I think people are just trying to be helpful. It might be annoying but they mean well. Besides, when you know someone who is constantly complaining about this or that ailment, it gets really tiring. If you don't want people making suggestions that might shut you up, don't talk about your ailments to begin with.

And that's kind of the crux of the matter regarding some of these points. Like staying out of people's relationships and marriage - for the most part, I agree... but when someone is constantly blabbing about their relationship, it's difficult to stay out of it. If you don't want people in your business, stop talking about your business all the time! Don't tell me about how you're doing something I find unethical - like cheating on your husband - and then expect me to be supportive about it. How am I supposed to respond to that? With a blank stare?

If I constantly moan about how fat I am, how can I get indignant when someone suggests I stop eating pies and pizza? If I'm constantly complaining about how my boyfriend doesn't treat me right, how can I get indignant when someone dares to tell me to just dump him already? If I'm constantly complaining about how easily my bones break when I'm only in my 20s, how can I get indignant when someone suggests I consume more calcium? It's REALLY annoying when someone complains about something when you KNOW there IS a solution to it but they are too lazy or scared or whatever to just do it.

If you don't want people in your business, don't involve them by talking about your business to them.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 02-22-2013, 07:29 AM
 
28,905 posts, read 46,717,705 times
Reputation: 46025
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluesmama View Post
Well, I'm looking at it from a different angle. When someone posts anything having to do with anything on a public forum, no matter how big or small, innocuous or heavily personal. . . you are making it everybody's business.
Yep. I make it a point to avoid judgments about friends, family, and colleagues. In fact, I really detest it when people such as my in-laws hold forth and critique people who think differently.


However, I don't think the blog in question really applies to this forum. After all, given the fact that it's a discussion forum as opposed to a validation forum, it's fair game. I've never understood the concept of airing one's problems or issues online to a bunch of strangers and then getting mad when they tell you things you don't want to hear.

Last edited by cpg35223; 02-22-2013 at 07:41 AM..
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
Similar Threads
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top