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Old 02-26-2013, 12:46 PM
 
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I mostly only friend and accept friend request of people I meet IRL.
I used to clean out my facebook every now and then, the person I havent chatted with in years, the ex-gf of a close friend, so-on and so-on.
Now, I don't delete people uless they really do something to upset me.
You never know when you will see them again, and they may even become a friend or networking option at some point.
But I have different security settings for various types of friends. Professional people see some things, networking people see another setting, and friends and family see other variations of my profile.

My big hurdle lately is women I date. When do you add/ accept them? Delete them post break up, don't delete them? what to do with friends of gf's? awkward
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Old 02-26-2013, 12:50 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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How so? Its MY account, not someone elses. My privacy settings don't allow for the "whole world" to see my page.
Hah - because it is the internet. You could write something and delete it 30 seconds later and Facebook would still be able to pull up what you wrote. What you put on the internet lives forever regardless of your privacy settings.

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I mostly only friend and accept friend request of people I meet IRL.
I used to clean out my facebook every now and then, the person I havent chatted with in years, the ex-gf of a close friend, so-on and so-on.
Now, I don't delete people uless they really do something to upset me.
You never know when you will see them again, and they may even become a friend or networking option at some point.
But I have different security settings for various types of friends. Professional people see some things, networking people see another setting, and friends and family see other variations of my profile.

My big hurdle lately is women I date. When do you add/ accept them? Delete them post break up, don't delete them? what to do with friends of gf's? awkward
I did match for a whole year and didn't add any of the guys to my Facebook. I think until you are actually in an official exclusive relationship, it is better not to be FB friends.
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Old 02-26-2013, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Missouri
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I'm only fb friends with people I actually know. I am also only friends with people over the age of 18. I don't want to offend anyone because I posted a song that has strong lyrics, and frankly most of what kids post is of no interest to me. I do have some friends that quite honestly I really don't care about seeing their posts, like an old high school chum that I haven't seen since high school - I don't care about her kid's Girl Scout cookie sale 1000+ miles away. I'm starting to change my settings so I don't see all of their posts, rather than unfriending them.
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Old 02-26-2013, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Windham County, VT
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I have 19 FB "friends". I have a profile on FB but am not enthusiastic about the site, and rarely post anything there.
I have neither the capacity nor the inclination to acquire a larger number of FB contacts-keeping track of people is a lot of effort for me.

I'm FB friends with a few people I used to know in childhood, one family member, and a few people I know now
(incl. a couple individuals I've never met, but have corresponded with extensively online, and a couple folks with whom I'm offline friends).
Haven't a rule, per se, about it-I just cannot deal with playing the oneupsmanship game of "I have more than you do". Since I can't compete, I just don't play, generally.
If I want to be able to check in on what's up with so-and-so, then I retain the friend status-otherwise, I do not seek out "friending" on FB.

I would be just as lonely with hundreds of imaginary*/virtual "friends" as I am with a mere handful of them.
The disjuncture, cognitive dissonance, would be that much greater if I had agreed to or sought out oodles of people with whom I had some slight connection for formal "friending"-
I might wonder why I feel so alone (lost in the crowd), what with having so many "friends" online.
At least with the few FB "friends" I have, the low number is congruent with what my life is actually like (socially atrophied).
If that makes sense to anybody-I'm not saying this to be pitiful, I'm explaining what I consider a pragmatic view that works for me.
*I'm not dissing anyone else & how they use FB or have online acquaintances, I'm just describing how I conceptualize things, personally.
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Old 02-26-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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Hah - because it is the internet. You could write something and delete it 30 seconds later and Facebook would still be able to pull up what you wrote. What you put on the internet lives forever regardless of your privacy settings.
I've never put something up that I regret.
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Old 02-26-2013, 12:54 PM
 
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People who post nothing but political propaganda for either side = Gone. These are not people. They are parrots.

People who post nothing but cheesy little jokes, inspirational stories and slogans = Gone. What did they do? Rob a Cracker Barrel gift shop or something?

People who keep trying to sell me something = Gone. I'm on Facebook to keep up with friends, not keep up with what's on sale.

That's about it.
I've been seeing a lot of these lately.
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Old 02-26-2013, 01:29 PM
 
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I've blocked quite a few people because of religious/political rants. Then I started thinking about the purpose of having some people on there to begin with. Anyone I wouldn't look forward to seeing IRL, I went ahead and deleted.

One thing about FB that really ticks me off is how every little action is archived. For example, I clicked on "Like" for this hilarious **** Parents web site. These funny posts show up on my feed.

About a month later, I googled my name and that's the first thing that showed up under my name: "Jane Doe Facebook Likes **** Parents." Ack! I've written so many articles that show up when I google my name. Yet, somehow that ridiculous FB "LIKE" is the first thing that shows up. I often have my resume out there for contract/freelance work - the last thing I need is some ridiculous FB Like showing up.

So, I changed my FB name a few weeks ago to more of a nickname, so it doesn't read exactly as I have it on my resume. I googled myself again, and thank goodness, nothing FB related shows up (not even my profile).

I have lots of international family and friends, so I decided not to delete my profile. BUT, if I wouldn't have been able to solve the problem of search engines picking up my name, I would definitely have deleted it. I hate that it's archived somewhere. Some of the stuff I do is education related and I don't need that garbage showing up.
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Old 02-26-2013, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Central Florida
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No rules for FB friends. Some friends, some family, some ex-boyfriends, a few people I knew in high school, and a couple guys I met online that I know I will never meet in person.

FB gives you control over what you put out there for all the world to see. I'm not sure why anyone complains about privacy, when its each users responsibility to set up those controls.

Oh yeah..... Accepting responsibility for ones own actions.... my mistake.
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Old 02-26-2013, 02:02 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I've been seeing a lot of these lately.
There's a guy on my list who recently became a car salesman...ugh he posts pictures of the cars he has for sale everyday to his personal FB page, so annoying. Or people inviting me to the Scentsy party or whatever the crap it is. No thanks!
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Old 02-26-2013, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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I only friend people who I am actually friends with, or family.

Most people my age (24) have like 500+ friends, because they just add/accept basically anyone. By comparison, I have 125.

I want to remove a few more people, but Im afraid their egos won't be able to handle it.

One of my roommates from college who I haven't spoken to since Summer 2011, who is a nice guy, but is just annoying.

What are your "rules" for such a thing?
No roommates or co-workers. Was going to keep parents off that list but now that mom retired and moved 1,000 miles away and will likely never see her again, I guess we can just "see each other on Facebook," and if I can't say something in front of my mother I probably shouldn't say it at all.

I've ended up with a few local musicians in my friends list who I have never met or even talked to but can be good for finding out info on what's going on around town.

Before the election I blocked loads of people because I was sick of hearing about it. And blocked someone who has loads of personal and family drama I don't really want to hear about, especially since he is one of those aforementioned musicians and I don't really care about his personal problems.
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