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Old 02-26-2013, 09:40 PM
 
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If I don't know them in real life, I don't add them in FB. And I mean really know them, not some acquaintance. I have maybe 50 FB friends, half are relatives. I only get updates on my FB page from 10, the rest I have to click to see which I do weekly or so. It's nice to see photos from good friends and relatives I care about. These people with 600 FB friends, I don't get it.

This is the way it should be. I wonder how many of these 600 "friends" would come down to police station at 2am to bail them out of jail or loan them money....LOL.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:45 PM
 
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The interesting thing about Facebook is that everyone has slightly (or very) different policy on how to manage it. Some people are on the "more is better" end of spectrum and others are on the "if I don't know you well, don't even bother" end.

In between those opposite poles, it can become very nuanced and perplexing, just as real life can be. Family? Co-workers? Potential romantic interests? Long lost people from the past? It gets tricky. Hard and fast rules of engagement are difficult. Personally, I leave my Facebook page completely open by choice for anyone to look at, and don't post annoying or incriminating crap. But that's just how I do it.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:47 PM
 
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This is the way it should be. I wonder how many of these 600 "friends" would come down to police station at 2am to bail them out of jail or loan them money....LOL.
What's an acquaintance and what's a friend though? It's not black and white.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:55 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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This is the way it should be. I wonder how many of these 600 "friends" would come down to police station at 2am to bail them out of jail or loan them money....LOL.

I never understood why so many people get caught up in NUMBERS and just add people they don't really talk to.

I only add people I know.
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Old 02-26-2013, 09:59 PM
 
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I only friend people who I am actually friends with, or family.

Most people my age (24) have like 500+ friends, because they just add/accept basically anyone. By comparison, I have 125.

I want to remove a few more people, but Im afraid their egos won't be able to handle it.

One of my roommates from college who I haven't spoken to since Summer 2011, who is a nice guy, but is just annoying.

What are your "rules" for such a thing?

No Facebook = No Rules, it is much easier to not have facebook than to think up a bunch of rules to be used on facebook.
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Old 02-26-2013, 10:47 PM
 
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What's an acquaintance and what's a friend though? It's not black and white.
You usually find out the difference when you're in a jam, whose a friend and whose an acquaintance.
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Old 02-27-2013, 12:30 AM
 
Location: Summit, NJ
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I have 128 FB friends and I've never deleted anybody. You know you can just hide their posts, right? If I don't particularly care about somebody, I just hide their posts.

The only way I would delete somebody is if they were seriously bothering me, but nobody has. (Back when I had AIM this was an issue...)
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Old 02-27-2013, 02:46 AM
 
Location: White House, TN
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I add people I know (or share things in common with, such as groups in college, or the same high school) but accept any request. If it's clear that they are just trying to sell me something or something of the sort, I'll delete them, but someone wouldn't add me if they didn't want me to add them back. I have 1,534 friends on Facebook, and I got my account on November 7, 2009. I default to "yes" - I'd rather accept someone I really shouldn't than reject someone and have to "look at myself in the mirror". What if, by some chance, some person finds me very interesting and wants to get to know me? It's happened a few times. While it can be time consuming to talk to the fans, it's rewarding, and often an enjoyable experience.

Annoying is a label thrown around frequently, but some people have a difficult time controlling it. I knew a boy in high school that has Asperger's Syndrome. He made comments that some would deem "creepy", he was loud, and he could act a bit unrefined sometimes. Selfish people just rejected his requests and blocked him and you could tell the quality kids by those that were nice to him.

The point is, people are all different and you don't know how they will take rejection, so don't reject someone on getting to know you. Sure, you can reject romantic advances. But you can't entirely block someone out of your life.
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Old 02-27-2013, 02:56 AM
 
Location: White House, TN
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The interesting thing about Facebook is that everyone has slightly (or very) different policy on how to manage it. Some people are on the "more is better" end of spectrum and others are on the "if I don't know you well, don't even bother" end.

In between those opposite poles, it can become very nuanced and perplexing, just as real life can be. Family? Co-workers? Potential romantic interests? Long lost people from the past? It gets tricky. Hard and fast rules of engagement are difficult. Personally, I leave my Facebook page completely open by choice for anyone to look at, and don't post annoying or incriminating crap. But that's just how I do it.
I agree with the "don't post annoying or incriminating crap". Good rule

Yes, I do refresh unanswered friend requests every few months. It's worked quite often, and I've never been restricted from adding people on Facebook.

Another great rule is, if someone adds you, you reject them, and they add you again, they really care to be your friend, and unless it will put you in danger, add them.

I have my cell number open on Facebook to my 1,534 friends even. Not once have I gotten a creepy text message from it.

Full disclosure: I am a 20 year old man.

I've even made friendships over Facebook. Maybe not full fledged friendships, but friendships nonetheless.
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Old 02-27-2013, 03:26 AM
 
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don't trust anyone, only tell them what you don't mind being repeated/shared..
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