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Old 03-03-2013, 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted by katestar View Post
I did make it clear to her last night that the cars are for us to get to and from work because that's how the bills are paid and I'm not lending out my car and I don't want her to lend out her car anymore (it's under my name) to anyone who is not on the insurance. They want to borrow, they pay insurance and gas upfront.

This has made me into such an evil person I feel. Ugh.
It's her car but it's under your name, and you tell her to whom she can't lend it? Insurance might be one thing, but gas is altogether another.
That situation and your attitude is patronizing and smacks of 1950s Leave It to Beaver spousal subordination. If my husband said "I made it clear that the cars are for us to get to and from work and that's how the bills are paid", I would reply "Why are you talking down to me and who appointed you king of our marriage?".
The point is not that anyone is evil, it's that in a true partnership, there's no need for either to pontificate about making things clear. That's why I suggested, in my post above, that you and she go to marriage counseling.
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Old 03-03-2013, 03:48 PM
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She'll be losing it until she's 66. Maybe you should call the 800# or go in person to an office to talk to them about it. When you go ove the limit, it's taken away from you, and they get you when you file your taxes.

I have a friend that worked, made over the limit, and it was taken away from her until she turned 66. I have another friend who's husband retired and had the same thing happen to him.

It's just something to think about, because with her owing the IRS, plus SS taking money out, she'll have less than before. And government agencies don't waste any time when they want their money.
I think your math is wrong. They don't take it all away from you, they take $1 for every $2 you make OVER the limit...so she could make $15K and nothing will be taken away. Read the site.
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Old 03-03-2013, 10:30 PM
Location: Talmadge, San Diego, CA
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Well, then she's going to be surprised.
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