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Old 03-01-2013, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I think boring person vs. interesting person has less to do with his hobbies and interests and life experiences...although those definitely still matter. It has much more to do with his or her personality. I've met a person or two who has traveled the world and has done snorkeling, mountain climbing, authored a novel, built things, acted in an indie film, etc...and yet when we have a conversation, the person sounds yawn-inducing even when describing their exotic life experiences. And I've met folks who have seldom left their own backyards who are a ton of fun to talk with (about almost any topic) and be around. The converse of each is also true.

Some people (both extroverted and introverted) are just subpar at keeping others engaged and attentive during conversation.

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I also think there is a thing as too much passion for something, because it makes you less open-minded about other pursuits. I've known a person passionate about jazz, for instance. He was into getting the old 45's and playing them on a victrolla. He was into swing dancing as well, and definately beyond passionate! However, try getting him out of that world, and have a discussion about any other form of music, or trying to get him to do anything outside of his "hobbies"...forget it! He was actually insultive of other types of music. It can really be a form of self-centered or ego-centric behavior, masked as passionate.
The word "obsessed" come to mind. I think ANY subject, activity or event (even one that I'm normally highly interested in) can become tiring if the person dedicates way too much time to it - physically and/or mentally. It's better to sometimes take your mind off that one thing and explore something new and different. Part of what can make someone more interesting is a willingness to occasionally step outside his or her comfort zone.
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Old 03-01-2013, 06:40 PM
 
Location: The Emerald City
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Some people seem to have any real hobbies or interests, aside from the usual activities like socialising with people, perhaps listening to some generic pop music. Or otherwise their entire attention/life seems consumed by their family, job.etc. I realise many people do not have time to collect model trains or something, but I've found that people who lack something they are really passionate about, whether related to their job or not, just aren't very interesting to get to know or talk to a lot of the time. It may sound snobbish but that's my observation.


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Old 03-04-2013, 08:19 AM
 
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I don't know about anyone else here, but I don't have hobbies so that I can be seen as interesting to others. I have hobbies because I am interested in those things. I could not care less if they are interesting to others.

Further, I don't choose my "passions" in order to be interesting or entertaining to others. If people do pick their hobbies and passions for that reason, they must really be empty individuals.
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Old 03-04-2013, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Chicago IL
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I don't know about anyone else here, but I don't have hobbies so that I can be seen as interesting to others. I have hobbies because I am interested in those things. I could not care less if they are interesting to others.

Further, I don't choose my "passions" in order to be interesting or entertaining to others. If people do pick their hobbies and passions for that reason, they must really be empty individuals.
I agree to even look down on someone because their hobbies are not tailored to your personal opinion on what a hobby is or if you feel what makes a person interesting or boring as objective fact is just stuck up.
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Old 03-04-2013, 10:35 PM
 
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I've done so many things for a hobby and did them well: backstage theater, ASL, politics, school committees, sports, trips, stained glass, pottery, oil painting, watercolors, computer art, gardening, I could go on and on. But my point is I really don't have a passion about any of it. I do it well and like it when I am doing it but I could take it or leave and have left most all of it. People tell me I should be producing much more content in my arts but I feel like hobbies are time wasters, I don't know why. I'm not blaming anyone that has hobbies.

I think my only passion is a happy home, peace and serenity. And if it includes a hobby fine, if it doesn't fine. Hobbies seem to come and go for me.
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Old 03-05-2013, 02:45 AM
 
Location: Montreal, Quebec
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Definition of HOBBY

: a pursuit outside one's regular occupation engaged in especially for relaxation

This is from Hobby - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

This definition is pretty broad...so I could imagine anything that someone does outside of work for relaxation could be a hobby.
Wouldn't that make onanism a hobby?

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Old 03-05-2013, 03:21 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Not at all, because reading is learning and exercising the mind. So is chess. So are any number of other board games. But video games? Not really. Hey, if you want to call that a hobby, be my guest, if you want to dignify it with that term.
So reading a trashy bodice ripper is more of a hobby in your mind than watching a Discovery channel special or Shark Week or whatever?

Hey, I am a HEAVY reader (at least 5 books a week on average), but some of the crap I read (murder mysteries, etc) is total fluff.

And frankly, I have friends whose hobbies include collecting things (like Barbies, vintage signs, etc). Talk about a boring waste of time/money IMO.

But if that's where they get their jollies, so be it. I'm more of a sports, playing instruments, riding, traveling, etc.
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Old 03-05-2013, 11:57 AM
 
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I've always have had a multitude of hobbies in my life....piano, drawing when I was younger, running, hiking, reading. I have no problems keeping myself happily occupied.

And gasp, I've loved games since I first saw a coworker playing Zork in the mid 80's. Computers and games inspired my husband to get his masters of science in Computer Science, teach, and make a hefty salary as an IT professional. We are both gamers and have enjoyed our mutual hobby for our 30 years of marriage. It keeps us young at heart and gives us something to enjoy together.

To each their own. I find many of the virtual worlds very entertaining, have made some real friends, and have really enjoyed my gaming hours. I prefer the deeper, more complicated games out there. Like any hobby though there does need to be a balance and gaming is no exception.

A couple of my friends don't really have hobbies aside from being a parent or shopping.
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Old 03-05-2013, 05:59 PM
 
Location: Up North
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My hobbies involve a lot of physical activity such as running outdoors, yoga, and hiking. I have been judged by a former boss for not having any real hobbies outside of working out. The thing is, I don't see it as working out, I see it as things I'm passionate about and couldn't live without.

I guess people that don't get the appeal of physical activity will cast judgement, screw 'em!
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Old 03-06-2013, 03:47 AM
 
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I think a hobby is something you do in your spare time (if there is anything like that these days) that gives you satisfaction and motivation to move to the next level.
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