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How do you deal with the situation if your significant other has a close family member (step sibling in this case) that you absolutely never want to be around?
I don't do negative vibes/energy, and her step brother is just a DRAIN to be around. The dude is very rude and over the top. At every family gathering I've been to thus far, he's always said or done something to get under at least 1 person's skin.
Trying to be respectful around her parents, I've let some things he's said slide 2 times, but at a recent gathering at her aunts house, I finally had to snap on the dude and tell him that he can keep coming at the rest of them sideways, but don't come at me with it. It all started when he tried to hug at the end of the night and I pushed the dude away saying I can't even fake the love bro.
Mind you by the time the night was over with, he'd already gotten into it with my gf and their first cousin over separate issues.
I love her but I can't be around that nor pretend as if I like him in his presence
What does your girlfriend say about it? If it’s bad enough, maybe she should discuss it with her parents.
Do you have to go with her to the family events? If so, I’d try to stay in a different room or outside as much as possible. If I’m the same room, just face away or sit far away in order to engage the least amount possible.
I say there's one of those in every family, so you have to just suck it up and be around him as long as the get togethers aren't too often. Best option is do your best to avoid him at these gatherings.
Let me get this straight. The dude was obnoxious. Then you turned around and showed everyone that you are too? Now the rest of the family realizes they have two children (as in people who can't control themselves) to manage...one of them just happens to be an invited guest.
How do you deal with the situation if your significant other has a close family member (step sibling in this case) that you absolutely never want to be around?
I don't do negative vibes/energy, and her step brother is just a DRAIN to be around. The dude is very rude and over the top. At every family gathering I've been to thus far, he's always said or done something to get under at least 1 person's skin.
Trying to be respectful around her parents, I've let some things he's said slide 2 times, but at a recent gathering at her aunts house, I finally had to snap on the dude and tell him that he can keep coming at the rest of them sideways, but don't come at me with it. It all started when he tried to hug at the end of the night and I pushed the dude away saying I can't even fake the love bro.
Mind you by the time the night was over with, he'd already gotten into it with my gf and their first cousin over separate issues.
I love her but I can't be around that nor pretend as if I like him in his presence
Sounds like you were waiting for a reason to blow up.
First of all, how old are you? I've noticed that young people have very little tolerance for people or things they don't like or don't agree with.
Unless he's doing something absolutely egregious, learning to "live and let live" is a very helpful and useful skill in life, you'll find as you age.
Are you going to quit jobs because of or insist your boss fire any coworker with "negative vibes and energy" who "drains you"? Puhleez.
You're not in relationship with him; you don't have to love him. But we have to coexist with all kinds of people in this world. So chill out.
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