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Old 03-16-2013, 10:51 PM
 
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Her daughter was the sponsor but they didn't get along for the same reason. She went back to her country but her kids there wanted her to come back here so she can help them out financially. So cousins asked a favor to let aunt stay at my house because she doesn't want to go back to her daughters house.
If she's helping her kids out financially, and also the daughter sponsored her, then she's their problem. Just send her packing and inform the daughter that it is her duty to provide housing and living costs for her as she signed an agreement to do so. It's her responsibility, and the longer you allow it the more settled in she's going to get and then it will be harder.
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Old 03-16-2013, 11:56 PM
 
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My aunt came from another country and is now living in my house. The arrangement was she suppose to live in my house temporarily till she finds a job. She found a job and still here. She's pretty much getting everything for free, food and shelter. She watches TV alot. She's very intrusive of our own business. She gossips alot about other people. She's my uncles wife but they got divorced a long time ago. I'm letting her stay at my house as a favor for her children, my cousins. I don't know how to get rid of her off my house?
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If she's helping her kids out financially, and also the daughter sponsored her, then she's their problem. Just send her packing and inform the daughter that it is her duty to provide housing and living costs for her as she signed an agreement to do so. It's her responsibility, and the longer you allow it the more settled in she's going to get and then it will be harder.
I'm wondering how long she has stayed at your house and how long she stayed at her legal sponsor's house (her daughter's house)? It really seems like your aunt is taking advantage of your kindness and good nature.

Will your aunt be deported back to her native country now that her legal sponsor isn't "being responsible" for her? Not that it is your problem, but I'm just curious.
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Old 03-17-2013, 02:39 AM
 
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Give her 30 days noticed that she has that amount of time to find a place to live and move out. It is your life and your place, take comtrol. You met your end of the deal, you took her in until she found a job. Now she is just taking advantage of you.
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Old 03-17-2013, 05:16 PM
 
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I'm wondering how long she has stayed at your house and how long she stayed at her legal sponsor's house (her daughter's house)? It really seems like your aunt is taking advantage of your kindness and good nature.

Will your aunt be deported back to her native country now that her legal sponsor isn't "being responsible" for her? Not that it is your problem, but I'm just curious.
She's been here with me since October. She lived with my cousin for about two years I think.
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:08 PM
 
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I'm wondering how long she has stayed at your house and how long she stayed at her legal sponsor's house (her daughter's house)? It really seems like your aunt is taking advantage of your kindness and good nature.

Will your aunt be deported back to her native country now that her legal sponsor isn't "being responsible" for her? Not that it is your problem, but I'm just curious.
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She's been here with me since October. She lived with my cousin for about two years I think.
Thanks. If she has been living with you since October it is someone else's turn to house her (or she needs to live on her own).

Follow the advice and give her a deadline to move out and change your locks so she can't move back in while you are at work.

Good Luck to you.
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:17 PM
 
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My aunt came from another country and is now living in my house. The arrangement was she suppose to live in my house temporarily till she finds a job. She found a job and still here. She's pretty much getting everything for free, food and shelter. She watches TV alot. She's very intrusive of our own business. She gossips alot about other people. She's my uncles wife but they got divorced a long time ago. I'm letting her stay at my house as a favor for her children, my cousins. I don't know how to get rid of her off my house?

I would contact her sponsor and tell them they have until say April 15, 2013 to get your Aunt out of your home and into theirs or another place to live. She is NOT your responsibility any longer and never should have been your responsibility.

IF the sponsor refuses send her a bill for the entire cost of keeping your Aunt in your home on the sponsor's behalf and if they refuse to pay take them to small claims court (or at least threaten to) and tell them to have her out by the specific date OR they will be taken to court AND monthly bills will be sent to them and are expected to be paid in full immediately.

If you don't want to do any of that turn off the cable/internet access and limit the amount of food in the home, cut your heat and air down to minimum and tell your Aunt that you cannot afford to support her and yourselves so ALL luxuries have to go. If you pay for her cell phone turn it off as well and give her no access to vehicles or anything else that is not necessary for her minimum comfort.
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