People bitching about you behind your back (person, present, gossip)

[Trimac20]

Have you ever directly observed this (i.e. eavesdropping, being a snoop or whatever) or heard second hand about being talking smack about you? You as a person, your appearance, something you've done.etc...were you at all surprised by how people viewed you? I often wonder how much people 'talk about me' this way; since I was out of the 'social loop' I've found that while most people aren't malicious, get them in a group and they practically relish malicious gossip about people. Well, SOME people. It's not something that keeps me up at night but I have wondered if colleagues or friends (supposed friends) have done this a lot to me. I don't think I have a lot to work on but I'm sure they could pick something.

It seems during arguments the truth also comes out. Out of the blue, a friend claimed I treated 'all my friends badly' because of a couple of things I did to him, which he perceived as me treating him badly. I cancelled an appointment at the last moment, because I felt sick (I'm indecisive, so sue me) and apologized for it. I got the feeling he wanted to hang onto this 'slight' even after the event. I have no time to justify myself anyway. But yeah getting away from my main point...

[intelfan11315]

Never heard it, but it sure wouldn't surprise me!! My guess is people don't say bad things about me but they most likely laugh about me

[Red On The Noodle]

Work in an office full of women. Only the strong survive

[West of Encino]

Yes, it has happened to me a few times. She, along with her "friends", certainly represented her demographic really well.

[Poetess]

I get that too from some people, usually women, as I tend to stick to myself and not interact with others. I'm just really reserved and shy, always turning down invites lol, and people don't like that.

Some people are gonna talk smack no matter what, friends, familia or even strangers. Bottom line, you can't sweat that stuff, as long as you stay true to yourself and know you're being real, if people don't like that, sucks for them!

[Raena77]

Yeppers it happens. I think it's when too many women work together. We can be catty. Although I do work with some men whom do that.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Yeppers it happens. I think it's when too many women work together. We can be catty. Although I do work with some men whom do that.

From my brief time working in a office I'd say men are almost as bad, but it depends more on the individual than the gender.

[Stumbler.]

Men gossip or "*****" just as much as women do.

They usually just don't call it "bitching about someone" but probably use some manlier alternative phrasing like "talking some **** about some dude" or whatever.

[West of Encino]

Originally Posted by Stumbler.

Men gossip or "*****" just as much as women do.

They usually just don't call it "bitching about someone" but probably use some manlier alternative phrasing like "talking some **** about some dude" or whatever.

Yes, but men do it to a lesser extent.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by West of Encino

Yes, but men do it to a lesser extent.

Slightly less