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Old 03-18-2013, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, NY born & raised!
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I'm asking this on behalf of my neighbor. She has been dating a guy for a little while now. She has a male friend of 3 years who before she even started dating her BF, she was thinking of cutting the friend off. He has been mainly negative, one sided and flaky. A while back she gave the friend the keys to her apartment in case of an emergency.

Out of respect for the BF, she asked the friend for the keys back. He said "why the hell should the BF care if I have the keys, I was your friend before you met him". Before I wasn't living here, but she now has me to have the keys instead of her friend since I live next door. The friend was also very negative about her relationship with her BF from the beginning.

She asked him why can't he just respect her wishes. She doesn't want to tell the BF that said friend even has the keys because he does not think highly of the friend. I'm not too keen on him either.

Is she wrong to ask for the keys back when she has me to check in case of emergency and do you think that the friend has a right to overreact about the keys?
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:33 PM
 
Location: NYC
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No, nothing wrong there. Perhaps she should have just asked with kid gloves, and exclaimed the convenience of having you next door as the reason.
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:35 PM
 
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I'm asking this on behalf of my neighbor. She has been dating a guy for a little while now. She has a male friend of 3 years who before she even started dating her BF, she was thinking of cutting the friend off. He has been mainly negative, one sided and flaky. A while back she gave the friend the keys to her apartment in case of an emergency.

Out of respect for the BF, she asked the friend for the keys back. He said "why the hell should the BF care if I have the keys, I was your friend before you met him". Before I wasn't living here, but she now has me to have the keys instead of her friend since I live next door. The friend was also very negative about her relationship with her BF from the beginning.

She asked him why can't he just respect her wishes. She doesn't want to tell the BF that said friend even has the keys because he does not think highly of the friend. I'm not too keen on him either.

Is she wrong to ask for the keys back when she has me to check in case of emergency and do you think that the friend has a right to overreact about the keys?
Not only get the keys back, but change the locks.

I'll be right there as soon as my plane lands.
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:37 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Fix him. Put another lock on the door.
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Old 03-18-2013, 06:38 PM
 
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Fix him. Put another lock on the door.
That's the only way to do it. Who knows if he made a trip and had more made.
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Old 03-18-2013, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Pa
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That's the only way to do it. Who knows if he made a trip and had more made.
She needs to dead bolt that ish.
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Old 03-18-2013, 07:58 PM
 
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This is a Seinfeld episode.
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Old 03-18-2013, 08:02 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I'd have the locks changed as well...
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Old 03-18-2013, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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"Out of respect for her BF"?? It's bizarre and kind of ridiculous to think that a male neighbor couldn't be your emergency keyholder just because she now has a BF.

But her neighbor acted like a baby when she asked him to return the keys.

She needs to change the locks, and avoid the weird "friend."

It does sound exactly like a Seinfeld episode.
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Old 03-18-2013, 08:19 PM
 
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She's not wrong and the friend will just have to get over it.
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