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I'm sorry, I left out an important element: I'm in love with him.
Well, if this is indeed the case then perhaps you should just rest assured that you can know one thing for sure, his character seems to be of a deeply respectful nature. The rest, only time will tell.
True, all of the information wasn't contained in the OP, but it was in the thread; you just didn't process it all.
But Love_and_Peace, sweetie; life is too short.
Don't come here asking for advice and then get sassy. Include all relevant information in the OP rather than rolling it out bit by bit. It just frustrates people here and turns them against you.
Your problem is not a problem. It is just something you don't like.
He may be younger, but your behavior, both here and with him, is childish. Please get over yourself.
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I don't see how it's rude.
Yeah, I think the inverse is actually rude. I never referred to a professor or teacher by their first name. They were my instructors NOT my friends. I treat my clients the same way even if I am older than them. All about respect.
Again, the key issue is that I've repeatedly asked him not to; it's not appropriate when we're working together. It makes me feel old, and apart, and the other members of the band think it's stupid. It also makes him look bad.
Poor guy. I think you guys are being intolerant. I don't know where he's from but it really could just be a sign of respect and not mean anything more than that. He's not calling you a dirty name or anything and he hasn't done anything to you to indicate that he's trying to be rude given what you've written throughout this thread, he's probably just trying to be respectful and might even think that you telling him to be on first name basis is something that's rude for him to do.
I have an adult student who, despite repeated requests to call me by my first name, persists in calling me "Ms. X." He is also a colleague in a different, less formal circumstances where everyone is on a first name basis. I'm offended by this. Don't you think it's rude?
I wouldn't consider it rude. Now, I ALWAYS refer to someone by title, ie Dr., Rev., Professor, Judge, Military rank (even though I'm a civvie now),counselor, etc even if obviously younger than me until asked or told other wise. In a business or formal setting, I will address someone as Ms., Mr. People much older than me, always Mr or Ms. My mother's neighbors, colleagues and friends which I have known since I was little, Again, Mr. or Mrs. My mother's pastor insists we address him by first name, so in that regard, I will make an exception.
Being born and raised in the South by strict parents and serving in the military simply instilled this in me. I also feel comfortable not taking social liberties and presumptions with people I don't know.
Your student is just probably just being respctful, and in a world where respect is becoming a rare commodity, I would accept it.
You think you're psychic? So sorry but I'm not a believer and you do not have enough information to make that determination.
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