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I don't think he's being rude at all. He is, after all, calling you by your very real and very legal name. Many people have been raised to believe that the use of first names is inappropriate in certain relationships, for various reasons. Expecting him to alter his ingrained beliefs is where the rudeness lies. I suppose the only way you will be both be satisfied is if he simply doesn't call you anything.
I don't think he's being rude at all. He is, after all, calling you by your very real and very legal name. Many people have been raised to believe that the use of first names is inappropriate in certain relationships, for various reasons. Expecting him to alter his ingrained beliefs is where the rudeness lies. I suppose the only way you will be both be satisfied is if he simply doesn't call you anything.
^ ^ ^Agree
There are definitely people in my life who call me MRS. Anifani b/c it is a sign of respect. Employees, students . . . I don't understand why someone would consider this rude. Even if I say - feel free to call me Ani - that doesn't mean the other person DOES feel free to address me by my first name.
I cannot imagine why anyone would find this RUDE regardless of what setting it is in - formal or informal, business or away from a business setting. I continue to call professors Dr. So-and-So even though they have retired and I am older than they were when they taught me. I have had some of them say - "feel free to address me as John" but sorry - I will always think of those folks as Dr. So-and So - even if we are members of the same club, or see each other at a football game.
You are older than this young man so . . . the whole thing about "making you feel old" is silly. That is your hang up - just as this whole "Mrs." thing is your hang up.
I can't believe you are making an issue out of someone showing respect.
I still think you should let this go. If the others laugh, they laugh. Its no skin off your nose.
I am perplexed why this is a problem for you.
I don't like being called Mrs. Xxxx either, but I can't make people do something they don't feel inclined to do. Its best to chill on this. This is one of these things you cannot change.
You have an adult student = formal, student/teacher relationship, or as you are now saying, coaching.
You didn't call this person a peer.
Also a colleague = less formal, where everyone is on a first name basis.
You're mad because the person treats you formally in a formal relationship.
Try to be clear in your requests and presentation.
We can only go by what you write.
Yes, agreed. This is what you wrote, OP. I agree with the majority based on the info you've provided.
Perhaps he feels that you like him romantically, and wants to be clear that he does not view you that way.
Oops.... just saw others already floated the same idea.
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Perhaps he likes me romantically and has been in love with me for 10 years; that's what he told me.
>> I am perplexed why this is a problem for you.
You obviously have never played in a rock band.
I find these forums, of all kinds, *USENET*, etc., to promote responses based on anonymity, insensitive and, in one way, sort of cowardly. As everyone knows, people say things they would never say to your face (they can deny it, but that doesn't matter).
PeaceAndLove, guys; life is too short. Good luck with your lives; all happiness and success.
You never asked US why. You only asked if we thought it was rude.
So why do you really think he's doing it?
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