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Old 04-03-2013, 01:36 PM
 
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When a person makes the request, "Please address me as XXXXX.", it is rude to address them as anything other than XXXXX.
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Old 04-03-2013, 02:16 PM
 
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If a person insists on calling you by a formal title instead of what you requested, it is plain that he is intent on displaying his lack of romantic interest. The bigger deal you make of it, the more he will dig in his heels. Give it up.

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Old 04-03-2013, 02:27 PM
 
Location: South Minneapolis
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Much younger, different ethnic background. But still, I want to be on a first name basis. And have asked, many times.
Why do you feel that YOU are the one to dictate the terms of how you address one another? Obviously, you feel that you have some authority over this person, and that would indicate that his preference for addressing you as Ms. X is justified.
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Old 04-04-2013, 09:43 AM
 
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When a person makes the request, "Please address me as XXXXX.", it is rude to address them as anything other than XXXXX.
Thank you; I think so, too. I mean, obviously. But honestly, I had no idea my inquiry would stir up such a fuss. I wish now I hadn't posted it. Unless I'm mistaken, people get more mad at me for my political and religious opinions than something as trivial as this.

I did show my friend the thread and he promised to call me by my first name from now on. So at least that much was accomplished. He said he was just teasing me.
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Old 04-04-2013, 09:48 AM
 
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From the Emily Post web site:

"Although there can be many potential options, addressing someone by the name or title that he or she prefers is one of the most basic ways to show your respect."
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Old 04-04-2013, 02:23 PM
 
Location: A tropical island
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From the Emily Post web site:

"Although there can be many potential options, addressing someone by the name or title that he or she prefers is one of the most basic ways to show your respect."
Of course, Emily Post cannot presume to speak for every culture in the world. Sometimes cultures clash. In some cultures, any public affection, such as a hug, is considered rude. In other cultures, hugging is quite common. Eye contact when speaking, gestures, etiquette for meals, on and on....so many variations.
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Old 04-04-2013, 02:56 PM
 
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Of course, Emily Post cannot presume to speak for every culture in the world. Sometimes cultures clash. In some cultures, any public affection, such as a hug, is considered rude. In other cultures, hugging is quite common. Eye contact when speaking, gestures, etiquette for meals, on and on....so many variations.

OK.

But I'd be surprised if there is any culture in which refusal to address somebody in the way that they request to be addressed is considered polite.
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Old 04-04-2013, 08:20 PM
 
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"I'm sorry, I left out an important element: I'm in love with him."

"Perhaps he likes me romantically and has been in love with me for 10 years; that's what he told me."

"Who said anything about the two of us being in love?"

You that's who. I didn't misread anything. I read your exact words.
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Old 04-04-2013, 10:01 PM
 
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OK, I have to admit I envision the OP in a fedora and feather boa, and someone who favors fainting couches....
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Old 04-05-2013, 09:17 AM
 
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I call shenanigans
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Seconded.
Got my vote!
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