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Old 10-28-2007, 12:49 PM
 
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Have you noticed how few people now a days seem to have good social skills. There is alot of talk about how isolated the average person is now days and how many of us are communicating only via instant messaging, email, Internet chat boards or in a work setting where conversations are scripted. The act of face to face conversation where we look at each other in the eye and discuss our interests and dreams seems to be gone. I notice many people are together but talking to someone else on the phone or instant messaging on the cell phone.

Has the elimination of face to face conversation had an impact on your personal relationships?
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Old 10-28-2007, 01:54 PM
 
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Yes I agree most people I know have TERRIBLE communication skills.
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Old 10-28-2007, 08:35 PM
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Location: Central Connecticut
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The act of face to face conversation where we look at each other in the eye and discuss our interests and dreams seems to be gone.
I don't necessarily agree that face to face conversation has been eliminated. Kids socialize in school all day long. And most people that are adults today learned how to communicate face to face well before they even started to use the internet.
There have always been people who aren't socially conversational, and there always will be. I suppose that more people are becoming less conversant, but then it hasn't impacted any of my personal relationships. Maybe that's because I'm middle aged, and I belong to clubs and have social activities & sports interests where face to face conversation is the normal mode of communication.
Some people are home bodies, but I don't think that means that they can't hold a conversation. Many people are more articulate now days, but need better writing, spelling & grammar skills which the internet actually helps them to develop.
Since I've started writing more on the internet (which I haven't written much at all since college), I've regained some previously lost writing skills, and I'm sure that has had a beneficial impact on my conversation skills as well.
I really feel that organized communication leads to better organized speaking too. So I'm not pesimistic about whether or not modern society is fostering the loss of the art of conversation.
When people stay at home or on the internet and don't get out much, they may actually feel more of a need to converse than they would have otherwise to make up for their lack of face to face contact in their social life. So the end effect may be quite the opposite of what you're suggesting, at least for some of those people who are not afraid of engaging in conversation to begin with.
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Old 10-28-2007, 08:58 PM
 
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And for the past 1 1/2 years, I thought it was just Texans, LOL.......

Yes I have noticed the lack of social skills, mainly here though. In Miami socializing, casual conversation wasn't a problem, except with the younger generation. Savannah definitely it was not an issue. Here in TX, it has been, both with the older and younger generation.
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Old 10-28-2007, 10:26 PM
 
Location: NE Florida
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I am eating peanut butter off of a butter knife right now. If I was with you all in RL, I would never do that!
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Old 10-29-2007, 12:55 AM
 
Location: west coast
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Social skills are waning, I'm afraid. Table manners, too. Out where I am the homeless have even stopped using coasters and some of them seem to have an inordinate amount of trouble identifying a simple shrimp fork. And don't expect them to know which side the bread plate is on. By the way, you can pretty much forget about suggesting doilies to them.
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Old 10-29-2007, 04:22 AM
 
Location: NoVa
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I think people are speaking in the work place...but do they all know how to treat one another...No
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Old 10-29-2007, 04:33 AM
 
Location: Here
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Default Substance of Conversations....

Not only face-to-face communication is lacking in substance, so are e-mails. Most e-mails are items that are Fwd; Fwd; Fwd; Fwd...and a lot of the stuff is made up (heartbleed stories) or those ridiculous chain-mails (forward this in 5 seconds and your life will improve! stuff)..but as far as actual communication in an e-mail, it too is on the wane.

Face-to-face communication is mostly surface talk and it is true that the social graces are definitely lacking. And people constantly interrupting each other is definitely on the rise.

I find that most conversations are based on who is the best at "whatever", who has the most expensive "whatever", who ate at the best restaurant, who went on the best vacation, who went to the best concert, and on and on. If you try to interject a subject that would require some deep thinking about their feelings, current events and/or about their beliefs, you will usually get the deer-in-the-headlights.
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Old 10-29-2007, 06:38 AM
 
Location: USA
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I absolutely LOVE good conversation!
I guess it's why I love meeting new people.

There are people who meet just to talk, unfortunately, no where near me........love to do this:

Conversationcafe.org | National (broken link)

Wish we still lived in Tucson, and I could!
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Old 10-29-2007, 08:43 AM
 
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I am eating peanut butter off of a butter knife right now. If I was with you all in RL, I would never do that!
LOL--they won't let me rep you again. But depending on where you were, that's not necessarily a bad social skill! You'd be welcome anytime to sit at my dining table and eat peanut butter off a knife while we discussed important world issues.
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