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Old 04-06-2013, 06:34 PM
 
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This customer service guy that was talking to me kept staring into my eyes and I kept staring into his green eyes, but I couldn't take it anymore and I had to break my eye contact and look away because he was making me nervous. It was really weird like when he was talking he didn't blink once. So does that mean anything? Do you stare into people eyes when you talk to them? I always do, but I noticed people always look away because I think my eyes are really intense or something.
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Old 04-06-2013, 08:25 PM
 
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I don't think people in the USA (you are living in the USA, right?) are used to prolonged eye contact. Most of us see it as intimidating, perverted, etc. Whether that's right or wrong to say about the individual, that's what many people think. OTOH some people prefer eye contact throughout almost the whole conversation because it indicates honesty. In some other cultures what we consider "staring" is acceptable (whether in conversation or not) and in others eye contact with certain people is disrespectful. As for me, I look into other people's eyes or face while they're talking to me, but when I start responding I usually switch between eye contact and looking off because sometimes I can't get my thoughts out if I'm looking at someone's face reacting to my words. With some people I look into their mouths while they speak, rather than eyes, if I might have trouble understanding their accent. In that case those people get self-conscious because they think I'm staring at their bad teeth or whatever.
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Old 04-06-2013, 08:28 PM
 
Location: SC
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When you are talking to someone, do you keep staring in their eyes?
Only if I am eating a banana.
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Old 04-06-2013, 08:33 PM
 
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My eyes shift a lot. I'll try to keep my eyes on their face at least, but my eyes definitely shift a lot.
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Old 04-06-2013, 08:48 PM
 
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This customer service guy that was talking to me kept staring into my eyes and I kept staring into his green eyes, but I couldn't take it anymore and I had to break my eye contact and look away because he was making me nervous. It was really weird like when he was talking he didn't blink once. So does that mean anything? Do you stare into people eyes when you talk to them? I always do, but I noticed people always look away because I think my eyes are really intense or something.
If I had someone staring into my eyes constantly it would make me uncomfortable and I would keep looking away.
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Old 04-07-2013, 05:41 AM
 
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This customer service guy that was talking to me kept staring into my eyes and I kept staring into his green eyes, but I couldn't take it anymore and I had to break my eye contact and look away because he was making me nervous. It was really weird like when he was talking he didn't blink once. So does that mean anything? Do you stare into people eyes when you talk to them? I always do, but I noticed people always look away because I think my eyes are really intense or something.
Eye contact is good up to a point where you are making people uncomfortable.

The fact that you know what color his eyes were makes me think you like him.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:33 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Eye contact is good up to a point where you are making people uncomfortable.

The fact that you know what color his eyes were makes me think you like him.
Heh! I wondered about that, too.

OP, you mentioned that he kept staring into your eyes. But, apparently you also kept staring into his eyes. Maybe he just figured, since you keep eye contact and you're the customer, that he should take his cue from your behavior?
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Old 04-08-2013, 07:13 PM
 
Location: finally where I am meant to be
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I always make eye contact to show that I am paying attention and that I am listening , however I do not hold eye contact the ENTIRE time. I do look just to the side of the person's face but only briefly and only for short moments at a time. To me making eye contact is respectful, just not creepy staring !!
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Old 04-08-2013, 08:46 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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During a conversation people usually maintain eye contact perhaps 50% of the time. When listening there are usually breaks in the contact, and while we are thinking we tend to look away more.
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Old 11-28-2014, 09:30 PM
 
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I used to know someone who would immediately stare into my eyes whenever I started talking. Bugged me. Yes, look people in the eye when you communicate but don't stare them down like a robot. There's a way to do it without freezing your line of sight right into their eyes while they talk. It's weird.
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