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Old 04-19-2013, 06:49 PM
 
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If I see someone in the workplace who I am acquainted with, such as passing them in the hall, most of the time they will smile and say hello. Perfectly courteous.

However, if I pass the same person and someone else is in view, that same person will suddenly act as if they don't know me or see me. It seems like a majority of people do this. At least at certain places.

Why do people do this?
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Old 04-19-2013, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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I don't know. This sounds weird, uncommon and odd.

Is there something about you that people are ashamed to be associated with you but they otherwise like you?
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Old 04-19-2013, 07:15 PM
 
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I don't know. This sounds weird, uncommon and odd.

Is there something about you that people are ashamed to be associated with you but they otherwise like you?
No. I would elaborate further but it would be a TOS violation.
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Old 04-19-2013, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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No. I would elaborate further but it would be a TOS violation.
Be creative without violating the TOS. Assume we have good imaginations or we can decode hidden messages.

Regardless, if you say no, then we'll assume no.

OK, how do you know this problem you are describing is not your imagination? Are you paranoid?
What you describe does not have too many possible explanations in a normal working/social environment.

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Old 04-19-2013, 07:20 PM
 
Location: San Marcos, TX
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If I see someone in the workplace who I am acquainted with, such as passing them in the hall, most of the time they will smile and say hello. Perfectly courteous.

However, if I pass the same person and someone else is in view, that same person will suddenly act as if they don't know me or see me. It seems like a majority of people do this. At least at certain places.

Why do people do this?
I have noticed similar behavior in certain circles. Don't you live in my city? Clique-ish way way beyond high school has ben my perception of people here. Maybe that is it.
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Old 04-19-2013, 07:27 PM
 
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The best way I can describe it is, they don't want to make the 3rd person jealous by acknowledging that we are friends. Does that make sense?

Or else, maybe they think it looks like we are sharing an "inside" relationship and don't want it to appear that way.

Regardless of the reason, I hate when people do that. It usually turns me off to them. Yes, it can even hurt my relationships with them sometimes.
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Old 04-19-2013, 08:55 PM
 
Location: palmsprings
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Why you wait for some one to say hello to you ? Can't you be the one thats courteous
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Old 04-19-2013, 09:06 PM
 
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Why you wait for some one to say hello to you ? Can't you be the one thats courteous
They are usually looking away rudely. Am I going to make a big scene to get their attention, especially if they are trying to avoid me. Wouldn't that be rude of me too?
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Old 04-20-2013, 07:10 AM
 
Location: PA/NJ
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Most people are phony but most can't see through it until they might start noticing inconsistencies.
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Old 04-20-2013, 09:05 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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If I see someone in the workplace who I am acquainted with, such as passing them in the hall, most of the time they will smile and say hello. Perfectly courteous.

However, if I pass the same person and someone else is in view, that same person will suddenly act as if they don't know me or see me. It seems like a majority of people do this. At least at certain places.

Why do people do this?
Because if they smile and say hello to you then they're ignoring the other person, and the other person will be writing in here asking why people do this.

It's all about business courtesy. Nothing to do with you, yourself, so don't take it personally.
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