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Old 04-21-2013, 12:46 PM
 
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I noticed that with the people I work with, my co-workers really don't initiate conversation with me, but they do with each other all the time. They will talk to me if I initiate it and can tell that they really like me, but what could it be that causes this to happen? Also, not to sound sexist, but I'm the only guy in the group. I'm not sure that has something to do with it. I know that I have not angered them.
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:16 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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You might have put your finger on it when you observe that you're the only guy in the group. There are good reasons for outlawing gender discrimination at work, regarding business issues. You can legislate people's behavior, but there's no way to legislate people's feelings, and it just so happens you're the "odd" one in the group. As long as they seem to like you, I think you just have to accept that and deal with it.
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:47 PM
 
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They likely don't feel comfortable with casual chitchat with a man. They are more at ease with other women.

Don't worry about it.
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:50 PM
 
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That's what I thought. Like I said, I can tell they really like me. Thanks for the replies!
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:53 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Are you new there? It usually takes a while to be "one of the group" when you're new. Also, there are usually a little more boundaries between guys and girls at work.
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Old 04-21-2013, 05:46 PM
 
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No, I am not new. This has been going on for awhile, but it seems recently that I've really been concerned about it. They will initiate interaction with me only if it relates to the job. That said, I'm getting ready to transfer in a month or 2 to another part of the country.
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