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Old 04-28-2013, 08:43 AM
 
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I notice that ppl have a hard time telling apart friends from acquaintances. For example, when i was in high school, mostly everybody called each person that they met a friend. I had that happen to me while i was in high school. I had several people called me friend in school. Now that we graduated from high school, i decided to send messages thru Facebook to see how they was doing and mostly they all ignored me, or barely reply back. I don't understand why ppl would call associates or acquaintances friends. I always wonder why ppl do that. I did not understand why ppl called me a friend when they don't hardly know me (although i had some ppl called me friend just to cheat off my paper, or get me to write their essays for them). It seems like people do not know what friends are.
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Old 04-28-2013, 08:57 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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Words mean different things to different people. And they mean different things in different contexes. It doesn't work to consider words in isolation - they're only pieces in a system of communication.
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Old 04-28-2013, 10:49 AM
 
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"Friend" is just easier to say than "acquaintance." It doesn't mean you consider that person a friend just because you refer to them as your friend. No one goes around saying "I had lunch with my acquaintance at work today." See where I'm coming from......
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Old 04-28-2013, 03:27 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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"Friend" is just easier to say than "acquaintance." It doesn't mean you consider that person a friend just because you refer to them as your friend. No one goes around saying "I had lunch with my acquaintance at work today." See where I'm coming from......
Correct.

OP, I think most people can tell the difference between the two just fine, even when taking into account the subjective meanings of both words.

I'd also add that "friend" sounds more informal, casual and well...friendly to say in normal small talk conversation.
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Old 04-28-2013, 09:59 PM
 
Location: Montgomery County, MD
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Some people don't need to micromanage and categorize everything. Also its insulting to refer to someone as your "acquaintance", means they aren't good enough to be ur friend.
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Old 04-28-2013, 11:15 PM
 
Location: Gotham
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Some people don't need to micromanage and categorize everything. Also its insulting to refer to someone as your "acquaintance", means they aren't good enough to be ur friend.
Or maybe they don't know enough about each other to be considered friends.
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Old 04-29-2013, 07:29 AM
 
Location: Central US
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To tell someone else that another person is "My friend" is a compliment to themselves. Ever hear people bragging about this friend and that friend. People often call people friends to score points with others.
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Old 07-07-2013, 06:01 PM
 
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Smile That is what i wondered for long time!

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I notice that ppl have a hard time telling apart friends from acquaintances. For example, when i was in high school, mostly everybody called each person that they met a friend. I had that happen to me while i was in high school. I had several people called me friend in school. Now that we graduated from high school, i decided to send messages thru Facebook to see how they was doing and mostly they all ignored me, or barely reply back. I don't understand why ppl would call associates or acquaintances friends. I always wonder why ppl do that. I did not understand why ppl called me a friend when they don't hardly know me (although i had some ppl called me friend just to cheat off my paper, or get me to write their essays for them). It seems like people do not know what friends are.



Thanks God! Finally someone sees what I have been seeing at least since 1996! Here is what I think. Since some ppl dnt have enough good frnds or dnt have capability to make one lasting friendship they have to relay on acquaintances especially when they have personal issues. For example; educational issues, financial issues or language barrier this happens when two acquaintances speak same language or came from same country. Don't forget; most of these kind ppl have multiple personality! It depends what ever issues they have at the time. For example if they have financial problem they seem more like your bro or sis!
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Old 07-07-2013, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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This is the sort of thing you see on Facebook; someone has 500 "friends" who they barely know or haven't had a real conversation with in years. I think it all depends on the context in which you use e term friend. Of course we all define friendship differently so it's tough to say. Some people are friends with their dog, others might think the guy who sells them their lottery tickets at the corner convenience store is their friend.
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Old 07-07-2013, 06:58 PM
 
Location: USA
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I notice that ppl have a hard time telling apart friends from acquaintances. For example, when i was in high school, mostly everybody called each person that they met a friend. I had that happen to me while i was in high school. I had several people called me friend in school. Now that we graduated from high school, i decided to send messages thru Facebook to see how they was doing and mostly they all ignored me, or barely reply back. I don't understand why ppl would call associates or acquaintances friends. I always wonder why ppl do that. I did not understand why ppl called me a friend when they don't hardly know me (although i had some ppl called me friend just to cheat off my paper, or get me to write their essays for them). It seems like people do not know what friends are.

Lots of the time people simply don't use the word acquaintance, but use the word friend in place of it. Just because they don't realize there is a difference. Maybe they don't even know about the word acquaintance.

It's like the word love. There are different kinds and different levels, but they are called by the same name "love". And that makes things very confusing sometimes.
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