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Old 05-10-2013, 09:51 AM
 
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Have u ever wonder that no matter how many people you meet, or people that you know in the past that you will never have anything in common with them? Does that affect you?
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Old 05-11-2013, 02:18 AM
 
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My husband's job relocated us to a different state. I love change and was looking forward to the adventure. Finding something in common with people wasnt really hard for me for me in the past. I have a lot of interests, however here I am 6 yrs later and haven't found one person that I have something in common with. It wasnt as easy as I thought it would be.
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Old 05-11-2013, 06:52 AM
 
Location: Democratic Peoples Republic of Redneckistan
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Have u ever wonder that no matter how many people you meet, or people that you know in the past that you will never have anything in common with them? Does that affect you?
If you actually talk to people you will find common ground somewhere in the convo...most people just want to get by as best they can so imho we all have that in common.
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Old 05-11-2013, 08:52 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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The older I get, the less I have in common with folks. I don't see it as a bad thing. I have less quantity but more quality people in my life. The downside to striving to be likeable to the masses is that is that you sacrifice a great deal of your integrity and beliefs in order to be accepted. That doesn't mean I want them to do this for me. I just stick to what I believe in and those who share the same core values.
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Old 05-11-2013, 09:07 AM
 
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My areas of true interests are quite narrow. Years ago, like 30 years ago, I was rather isolated and didn't make any effort to be around people who didn't share my interests. That was fine, then.

For the last 10 years, I have made an effort to be more conversational and be in the presence of others, simply for the sake of expanded knowledge and experience. I've learned a lot and become more tolerant and understanding of other people. I even find their primary focus to be interesting.
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Old 05-11-2013, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Windham County, VT
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Have u ever wonder that no matter how many people you meet, or people that you know in the past that you will never have anything in common with them? Does that affect you?
Whether or not we do have things in common, it often doesn't feel/seem as if we do.
I have narrow specific interests & don't share in caring about a lot of what is popular with other folks.
Am pretty isolated, still looking for people with whom I have enthusiasms & tolerances in common.
It's more difficult bc. I live far from population centers, but am very attached to where I live, so things are rather at an impasse.
Of course it affects me...as it would most anyone.
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Old 05-11-2013, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Have u ever wonder that no matter how many people you meet, or people that you know in the past that you will never have anything in common with them? Does that affect you?

No, I have never wondered that particular thing.

I ALWAYS have something in common with EVERYbody. It may very well be that we have so little in common, that I have to imagine myself somewhere else, whenever I'm in the same location as that person, but that's beside the point.

The older I get though, the less people I find who have many things in common with me. As we get older, we veer off into many different sidepaths. We develop new skills, new passions, new hobbies and a caution of people who remind us of someone we've met before. That can make it even more difficult to let people in, in order to explore for that common ground.

The thing of it is, you don't have to have a great many things in common. Perhaps you should develop other interests and associate with people who do the things you'd like to do. You don't have to have everything in common with someone, in order to spend time with them.

One thing to take into consideration too?....is that you may have been exposed to people exactly like you, and you were repelled by them, because certain things bugged you about them. Upon closer inspection....you don't like that person, because they have exactly the same traits as the very things you hate most about yourself.
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Old 05-11-2013, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Pahrump, NV
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i am a tomboy, always have been, always will be. i don't have kids, never wanted them, have no interest in being around them either. between those 2, i have a hard time socializing with other females. the very small amount of true female friends that i do have, are all like me. i enjoy being around them & doing the same things they are doing.

as i get older, i find more females that are child-less, so socializing isn't nearly as painful as it used to be.
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Old 05-12-2013, 10:28 PM
 
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I have always felt that I don't have nothing in common with others. I have something in common with everyone. We are all humans, we all suffer, we all feel joy and fear, we all have hopes, we all contemplate the mystery of life and death. Therefore I know that there is no one I do not have at least one thing in common with.

That's what you really meant, right? I only read your post title...
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Old 05-13-2013, 12:45 PM
 
Location: PA
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At a minimum you have this: We are all human (contrary to the beliefs of all these zombie apocolpyse fans).
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