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Coming from personal experience, friends who get married and especially after having kids develop different priorities and time frames then friends who are still single or just married. Sad to say, a good portion of the time from what i've dealt with, my past friends and I have basically parted ways since we basically became two different people with different directions and goals in my life. Kids especially are killers with long term friendships, especially if the wife/mom is controlling. Their are of course exceptions, but not in my experience.
With that being said I'm moving outa my homestate this year after 33 years as all my friends have married and punched out the kids, moved away and or have no time for me anymore, so i'm going to where a larger urban city with more single and career oriented friends and women are.
As the old saying goes, If you wanna catch fish, go to were the fish are.
I work with this married man. He is a very quiet person. When he do talk, he only talks about his wife and kids. So i started to talk to him to see what is he all about. The first 2 months started off ok till i ask him if he wanna hang out. He always gives me some excuse why he can't go. Every time our co workers go out to eat for lunch, he never comes with us or he eats by myself. I ask him do he have any friends and he said no, his wife is his only friend that he has. So are married people boring? Do they like talking to other types of people? I have never hung out, or talk to married people before.
So you are basing your perception about married couples solely on this one married co worker? Sounds to me as if he has no interest in socializing with his co workers. I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, I worked with MANY people (male/female/single/married) who did the same exact same thing as this guy.
Also, define "boring?" I have been married almost 19 years. My husband and I had a lot of fun before having children. We booked cruises all the time, traveled out of the country, dined and wined, went dancing, purchased items frivolously, and stayed out till all hours of the night.
We still have fun. But it's not the same kind of "fun" because now we have responsibilities. We don't have the same kind of freedom we used to have. However, we do spend a lot of time with our friends who are also married with kids. We go to the beach, bbq's, bowling, museums, concerts, fairs, etc, etc. We are a social couple and we like to do things with and without our kids. In addition, we know married people as well as single people who are homebody's and don't like to socialize. That to me is boring.
Are we boring? Well, we certainly don't hang out at bars/clubs anymore. We don't party, get drunk, or do drugs. We don't meet at the local sports bar to watch football on the big screens with a bunch of screaming patrons. In my opinion, that kind of stuff is BORING to me. So I guess the word "boring" is all relative.
So you are basing your perception about married couples solely on this one married co worker? Sounds to me as if he has no interest in socializing with his co workers. I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, I worked with MANY people (male/female/single/married) who did the same exact same thing as this guy.
Also, define "boring?" I have been married almost 19 years. My husband and I had a lot of fun before having children. We booked cruises all the time, traveled out of the country, dined and wined, went dancing, purchased items frivolously, and stayed out till all hours of the night.
We still have fun. But it's not the same kind of "fun" because now we have responsibilities. We don't have the same kind of freedom we used to have. However, we do spend a lot of time with our friends who are also married with kids. We go to the beach, bbq's, bowling, museums, concerts, fairs, etc, etc. We are a social couple and we like to do things with and without our kids. In addition, we know married people as well as single people who are homebody's and don't like to socialize. That to me is boring.
Are we boring? Well, we certainly don't hang out at bars/clubs anymore. We don't party, get drunk, or do drugs. We don't meet at the local sports bar to watch football on the big screens with a bunch of screaming patrons. In my opinion, that kind of stuff is BORING to me. So I guess the word "boring" is all relative.
i just ask a question. Looks to me that you got all defensive about this topic. I only ask because he don't talk to us and i don't go to bars or clubs. Read the whole topic first before you get all defensive idiot
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