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I mean this is ongoing issue. I just feel like I have a knowledgable group of people on this board, and they can help with this problem. If you have an issue with it, then just don't read this thread.
Your "friend" is severely lacking in social skills. The fact that you've put up with his weirdness for a year and are still dragging this out after two weeks of people here telling you to drop him already, indicates to me that you, too, have and equally tenuous hold on decisive behavior. For example, now you appear to be getting testy when people are reluctant to keep addressing your "ongoing issue." Ongoing implies that it is changing, but it isn't really. When folks here are telling you to "move on," it means "get some new friends." When you really are busy, instead of just trying to avoid Mr. Neurotic, you won't have any trouble ignoring him.
Your "friend" is severely lacking in social skills. The fact that you've put up with his weirdness for a year and are still dragging this out after two weeks of people here telling you to drop him already, indicates to me that you, too, have and equally tenuous hold on decisive behavior. For example, now you appear to be getting testy when people are reluctant to keep addressing your "ongoing issue." Ongoing implies that it is changing, but it isn't really. When folks here are telling you to "move on," it means "get some new friends." When you really are busy, instead of just trying to avoid Mr. Neurotic, you won't have any trouble ignoring him.
I see. Well, it's time to shut this board down. Thanks everyone!
Because we didn't tell you what you wanted to hear? Everyone has said to ditch this guy. You, for some reason, don't want to do that. I guess the reality is that he enjoys manipulating and you enjoy being manipulated. Are you addicted to the drama of it?
Because we didn't tell you what you wanted to hear? Everyone has said to ditch this guy. You, for some reason, don't want to do that. I guess the reality is that he enjoys manipulating and you enjoy being manipulated. Are you addicted to the drama of it?
No, I didn't "want to hear" anything. I wanted to hear some advice. I have a hard time just ditching someone but that is my problem. This doesn't mean I "enjoy being manipulated". Why would I possibly want this?
Dude, he is a sociopath and you have very low self esteem. Please seek some therapy to find out why you feel responsible for this guy. Best of luck to you.
No, I didn't "want to hear" anything. I wanted to hear some advice. I have a hard time just ditching someone but that is my problem. This doesn't mean I "enjoy being manipulated". Why would I possibly want this?
Because everyone has advise you to step away - and you obviously do not want to.
Because everyone has advise you to step away - and you obviously do not want to.
It's not that I don't want to. It's that breaking away, not just from friends, but from anything I have had for a long time, is very, very tough for me. I am trying to break this though, but it is not easy.
It's not that I don't want to. It's that breaking away, not just from friends, but from anything I have had for a long time, is very, very tough for me. I am trying to break this though, but it is not easy.
I posted in here already, but did you have a rough childhood by any chance where loved ones of yours have abandoned you or let you down in some way? Did you never really have many friends so you want to hold onto the one supposed friendship you do have? Is that why it's hard for you to break away from this so-called good friend...because deep down, you can't imagine never ever seeing or talking to him again? Get a girlfriend & be done with this guy...on second thought, you're not ready for that because if things don't work out, you'll be the type to be obsessed with her because you can't accept it if she ever broke up with you.
I'm being totally serious here when I say this, but you need pscyhological help, a therapist to help you with how you should bond with people as well as GREATLY improve your own self-esteem/self-worth. You also have to learn to know that when a person is not good to be in your life, to recognize that they contribute nothing & distance yourself until they're no longer in your life at all.
I have a very hard time letting go. I think it's time to shut this thread down. It is my problem now. Thanks everyone!
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