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My guy friends say go...my female friends say cancel. Of course ultimately it's my decision but I can't help but feel like a 'bad daughter' going. I've been told I'd be selfish to go at this point..I guess I'm really guilt tripping on myself at the moment...
Nope, I am female, with a Mother who lives crisis to crisis. She calls me out of the blue, needing "$500, RIGHT away....send it to me Western Union, or....". She never grew up, her parents always bailed her out, so, now she comes to me.
She is an adult, and she never asked you for help...so...go on your trip.
Exactly. I cannot imagine that you are even questioning helping your Mom. If you can afford your trips, and afford to help your Mom survive...Then do both. But, it isn't even a debate if it is Mom or Trip...IMO
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Last edited by JanND; 06-19-2013 at 08:08 PM..
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I think I could manage to do both if I compromise by going a day later and come back in the morning instead of evening. I could also fly into Fort Lauderdale instead of Mia, which would save money that could be sent to her.
Yes, my mom has issues as everyone does and yes, she has made mistakes (staying at this $9/hr job for 14 years without trying to do better is one of them IMO). But she's still my mom and now that I know what I know I feels it's only right to help. I honestly think she didn't want me to know so I wouldn't alter my plans/budget based on her circumstances, but hey, that's life....
I'm just very torn as everyone has purchased their flights already, and it's next week. As of right now I'm feeling like the 'compromise' proposed above would work best...
You can't change flights w/out it costing you big time these days. If you do go, save the expense of rerouting or changing your booking. Just get her groceries and pay a couple of bills. Then when you get home, see what she needs help with. She may not need as much help as your Aunt implied. But, it does sound like your Mom is the altruistic type, and that she would feel really badly if you cancelled your trip because of her. Hard call, I see your delima.
I went ahead and went on the vacation. I had a blast. I sent some money to my mom before I left.
Coincidentally, before I left we had a convo and she finally told me about what happened. She also mentioned that she told my brother back in March when it happened.
He sent her money this month too apparently, I don't know how much. When I asked her why she didn't tell me, she basically stated 'it just kinda happened' when she told my brother, and she told me not to tell anybody. Of course, my response is that 'I'm not just anybody' Anywho...I guess she didn't want me to worry I'm guessing. Moving on....now to try to help her figure out what she wants to do/can do next...
Thanks for everyone's input in this thread.
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