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IMO they are easy to avoid by not allowing a relationship to form only via e-mail/computer/phone. When I was online dating (I'm not now since I met my honey there 3 years ago) I would talk to someone online at most a couple of weeks. If you can't bring it into real life by then, why bother continuing? Too many people think there is a way to truly get to know someone without ever being face to face, but I do not.
I've never talked to anyone online that I didn't know. I post in forums, yes, but never chats or instant anythings. I've done this on purpose. Occasionally I hear about people meeting online that turned into a great IRL friendship or relationship but I don't know if I have it in me to even try! LOL
For whatever reason, I tend to have pretty good radar about people I encounter on line. But IRL? Forget it. It feels like every Catfish within a hundred miles or more somehow knows to hone right in on me. There was the man with 9 schizohrenic brothers; there was the clown who asked me to marry him after we'd been seeing each other for 2 years. "Quit your job, I'll take care of you," he said. He took care of me all right. One cold October afternoon, I was sitting in his daughter's room, helping with her homework (she lived with us). The Catfish walked through the door, looked at his daughter and me and said, "I can't do this anymore," turned on his heel and left us BOTH just like that. It was his payday, too; but do you think he left anything behind to help cover our expenses - like food? Nope. What a guy! Then there was the soldier who was getting busted out of the military and was confined to quarters. I bought his story, hook, line, and sinker (as usual) - turned out he was just another guy who loved to tell fish stories.
I'm afraid the catfish will always be among us, online or off.
I thought Catfish was a term used for people online pretending to be someone other than who they are?
That's what I was thinking. I recall a movie by that name about a guy who was emailing and talking on the phone with someone out of state and when he went to visit her she was an entirely different person than who she claimed to be. Not at all uncommon on the internet. On forums they are otherwise known as "trolls".
I thought Catfish was a term used for people online pretending to be someone other than who they are?
Of course you are correct, and Niv and gang will commence their second season this week. Re: the original question, if someone is being squirrelly about a live meeting after three weeks, dump them. They're just playing you. One of the entertaining aspects of the show is the people who keep clinging to hope when any idiot would know better.
Of course you are correct, and Niv and gang will commence their second season this week. Re: the original question, if someone is being squirrelly about a live meeting after three weeks, dump them. They're just playing you. One of the entertaining aspects of the show is the people who keep clinging to hope when any idiot would know better.
I agree 110% no matter the distance of someone you are talking to, if you cannot get them to agree to meet you, then obviously that person is not the person they claim to be. I am amazed how these people go for months and years talking to these people online and through text messages, yet can't figure out why a person doesn't want to meet them in person? And I am even more amazed that this is such a phenomenom, that they could not only create a TV show about it, but get at least two seasons out of it.
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