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I'm not sure why, but I have always been bothered by the "OIC" or "I see" responses via email/text/IM.
I guess I always feel like the person is just blowing me off. It is always a conversation killer. Once a person says that, it's like all talk just stops.
I always tell myself I'm over reacting, but I have always felt that way. It seems so insincere and rude. If I get something someone says, I'll say "oh, that makes sense" or "thanks for explaining" or something beyond "I see".
For those of you that say that, do you mean it sincerely. Why do you say "I see"? Do you say things like that in real life? And for the most part, does it stop a conversation in its tracks?
For everyone, is it just me that this bothers me? I noticed on certain people tend to do this. And it has nothing to do with their in-person conversation patterns. They never say it to me IRL, just online/text. Then, there's other people who never say it ever.
Thoughts? Discuss?
That was my grandmom favorite response when she felt you were talking foolish and she would just say
It bothers me too. Thing is I'm not sure why. Maybe because I dont know what the person means and to me it sounds cold. I would just want a more understanding response, but then that's putting expectations. So I try to just let it go.
I'm not sure why, but I have always been bothered by the "OIC" or "I see" responses via email/text/IM.
I guess I always feel like the person is just blowing me off. It is always a conversation killer. Once a person says that, it's like all talk just stops.
I always tell myself I'm over reacting, but I have always felt that way. It seems so insincere and rude. If I get something someone says, I'll say "oh, that makes sense" or "thanks for explaining" or something beyond "I see".
For those of you that say that, do you mean it sincerely. Why do you say "I see"? Do you say things like that in real life? And for the most part, does it stop a conversation in its tracks?
For everyone, is it just me that this bothers me? I noticed on certain people tend to do this. And it has nothing to do with their in-person conversation patterns. They never say it to me IRL, just online/text. Then, there's other people who never say it ever.
Thoughts? Discuss?
Context matters a great deal.
If my wife says, "Oh, I see" in upbeat tones, then it's one thing. If she says, "Oh......I see..." trailing off, I know that I need to get in the car and start driving until I run out of gas, then start hitchhiking.
I'm not sure why, but I have always been bothered by the "OIC" or "I see" responses via email/text/IM.
I guess I always feel like the person is just blowing me off. It is always a conversation killer. Once a person says that, it's like all talk just stops.
Thoughts? Discuss?
I don't converse by email/text...but do in person or by a good ole landline....but here's my take....
I don't consider it rude...but sometimes it does come off insincere to me.
I guess it depends on the context it was used in....but I have to agree with you...and it is for me (also) a conversation stopper. But only in that subject...I'd just change the conversation to something else.
Sometimes I feel that when someone I'm conversing with says OIC, it's because, they really DON'T see...and thus hoping to change the conversation they say "OIC".
This is an old thread, but I wanted to add my 2 cents. Being in business, whenever I had to converse with someone of an Asian language, usually they always said "Oh, I see" when they didn't actually understand what I was talking about, they just didn't want to be rude. I would then always follow up with "do you understand what I'm saying?" and they would say no.
I don't know if you're talking with someone with a language barrier, but it's not always to just stop a conversation. I personally use it as a condescending way of say "ok" when I disagree with the person and don't want to argue it.
To a friend/someone who I don't care to know more about that problem I'd reply with "ok", "ic" "uh huh" because I'm tired to hear about that problem all the time.
It was used a lot in ASL (sign language) handspelling “oic” and I have gotten very used to it from my deaf friends. Never thought otherwise about it. Haven’t really noticed it in the hearing world. Maybe it’s used in texting more than I know.
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