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Old 07-14-2013, 08:27 PM
 
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She,s the same age as me I would do exactly what Nilaj said first thing in the morning and would,t bother with the pat. test.
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Old 07-14-2013, 09:31 PM
 
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This was my closest contact with him:
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One day as a kid I tried to hug my father and he slapped me so hard that my lips cut open. Didn't try it again.

Taught me a lesson.
I'm... trying to understand this. If that's how he is, how did he become such a beloved grandfather? Does he interact much better with grandchildren or are your siblings elevating him?

There isn't really anything I can say about your mother... because if she doesn't want to change her situation, then there's really nothing anyone can do. You could do what you can to validate her and her position without dragging down your dad (or not bring him up at all).
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Old 07-14-2013, 10:38 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Why is your father asking your mother? If you are an adult, the decision is YOURS, not hers. Tell her that.
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Old 07-14-2013, 10:43 PM
 
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Why on earth is your mother still with this man after everything he has put her through? I just leave his a$$ and forget about the DNA testing.
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Old 07-15-2013, 01:03 AM
 
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You are sick beyond words.

Much worse or better for whom?
Do you seriously think it would have been better for those kids to be born?
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Old 07-15-2013, 01:09 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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Your father is obviously scumbag, sorry but that is the truth. My heart goes out to you and your mother and siblings. If she was just now pregnant and he wanted a test I can understand. This guy has the nerves to do this after THIRTY YEARS!?!? He obviously wants to hurt your family, I read the title and I instantly sensed this man is a disgusting human being.

I say go for it, and make him look like the fool that he is, and your mother (I wish her the best) should leave him. I got the sense that you all are adults now, so she has nothing to lose. Plus tell him to his face what a scum he is, getting different women pregnant.

God why should some people be so disgusting to even insinuate that their child after decades is not theirs?
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Old 07-15-2013, 01:10 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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Actually sorry forget about the DNA test, why should you guys insult yourselves for such a awful excuse of a human? No paternity test!
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Old 07-15-2013, 01:14 AM
 
Location: LA, CA/ In This Time and Place
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Any dad who slaps their child should never have to see their grandkids, ever! Too bad if your siblings allow, but you should not allow your kids or future kids to see their scum grand dad, tell him he should go to hell!
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Old 07-15-2013, 01:19 AM
 
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Actually sorry forget about the DNA test, why should you guys insult yourselves for such a awful excuse of a human? No paternity test!
Men have no way to know the child is truly theirs until a paternity test is done. He should be allowed to confirm it.
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Old 07-15-2013, 04:09 AM
 
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She should get a paternity test and a good divorce lawyer.
Indeed. And hopefully have learned that you do not read other people's mail.
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