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Old 04-29-2011, 08:37 PM
 
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I never met a woman that I wanted to talk for hours with on the phone. Woud die for yes, talk on the phone, no. I'm not much for talking on the phone. Friends that I meet for lunch, yep. Cry on my shoulder or vice versa, yes. However, either party would man up and pretend that they had got dirt in their eyes. Long rambling letters, no. I'm an in person type as are my friends. Call in the middle of the night, absolutely they can and occasionally do, if they could not they would just be acquaintances. I have lots of those but not many friends.
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Old 04-29-2011, 09:17 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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My opinion, too many guys worry about looking gay and are cheating themselves of a true close friendship with another guy.

My best friend and I are extremly close, we meet for lunch once or twice a week, we go out on what you could call a man date every other week or so, dinner and a movie. We also hit baseball games as often as possible, bowl, been on vacations just the two of us, and the like. We tell each other everything that is going on including intimate details of my wife and his finace.

We can absolutly count on each other always to be there for the other, in the good times and the bad. I am man enough to admit that I trully love the guy dearly, there is no sexual interest, just deep affection for a male friend. We have shed tears when something drastic has happened, we hug each other almost everytime we depart each others company, occasionally it's not your typical man hug, it's more intimate than that and a couple times a year we do say I love you to each other. We have on occasion spent a long time on the phone, but we spend enough time together that we don't usually that often.

Having a woman that is the love of your life is a blessing and is wonderful. But to have that male friend that is almost just as important to you makes your life that much more fulfilling.
I hate to say this...........imho you two are a bit more than just friends. There is stuff that goes on between y'all that is a bit more intimate than two guys should be with each other. Just my opinion.
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Old 04-29-2011, 09:20 PM
 
Location: Austin, Texas
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I don' thave any friends today like the ones I had back when I was 12 years-old.

Jesus...does anyone?
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Old 04-30-2011, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I do not know many men who have real close friends. I see men who have drinking buddies, activity partners (golf and bowing) and groups of work friends who have lunch and talk about sports. But none of the men I know are really true friends who you could:

Call in the middle of the night crying
Have lunch with one on one and spill your heart out to
Spend hours on the phone talking to
Write long rambling emails or letters to

I think women have closer friendships and I am envious about it. Do you agree?
The only gender that gets to be a close friend is female, and only one at a time.
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Old 04-30-2011, 05:06 PM
 
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In this society? I don't think men have any close friends aside from their wife. But even then most women-in the states-are cold like a Chicago winter. Its sometimes hard living in this society where you know you are on your own. Is it not like that in the rest of the world? I don't know. The US has the highest or close to the highest in number of rapes, depression, suicide rates in the world. Which is very telling.
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Old 04-30-2011, 05:07 PM
 
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I hate to say this...........imho you two are a bit more than just friends. There is stuff that goes on between y'all that is a bit more intimate than two guys should be with each other. Just my opinion.
And your opinion is exactly what is wrong in this nation. Just my opinion.
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Old 04-30-2011, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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Yes, my wife is my best friend.

Otherwise, I work with guys all day long - I get plenty of guy time and experience. The last thing I want to do during my disposable time (all two hours per week or so) is spend it with another guy.
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Old 04-30-2011, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Sarasota, Florida
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I don' thave any friends today like the ones I had back when I was 12 years-old.

Jesus...does anyone?
Great quote from the film: Stand By Me>>>>>>

Many gay guys still can be close to other males

Both their current lover(28 plus years) and I'm still close to an ex-lover in my life for 35 years.


YouTube - Stand By Me (trailer)
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Old 04-30-2011, 10:02 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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And your opinion is exactly what is wrong in this nation. Just my opinion.
Good for you. So why is my way of thinking at the center of the problems of this society?
Can't wait to hear this one....
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Old 04-30-2011, 10:07 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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I hate to say this...........imho you two are a bit more than just friends. There is stuff that goes on between y'all that is a bit more intimate than two guys should be with each other. Just my opinion.
it's not more than friends, it's "bromance", bro. It's entirely possible for a guy to have one REALLY GOOD wingman.
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