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Old 11-09-2007, 10:26 AM
 
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I do not know many men who have real close friends. I see men who have drinking buddies, activity partners (golf and bowing) and groups of work friends who have lunch and talk about sports. But none of the men I know are really true friends who you could:

Call in the middle of the night crying
Have lunch with one on one and spill your heart out to
Spend hours on the phone talking to
Write long rambling emails or letters to

I think women have closer friendships and I am envious about it. Do you agree?
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Old 11-09-2007, 10:32 AM
 
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Well that's the problem sweetie ... what man do you know that cries, spills his guts, talks long hours on the phone or writes long emails? I cannot name one!!

On the other hand, my husband has a good childhood buddy that he's know for 20+ years. They hang out every time he's in town. that don't have a relationship like you described but that's as close to a 'best friend' as I can think of for him!
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Old 11-09-2007, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Miami
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My best friends are my 5 and 8 year olds. My wife comes in second, and I have a few CD friends. I guess that's what works for me. Don't get me wrong, I have some friends, co-workers, and neighbors that I associate with, but I don't really trust too many people enough to have a real close relationship. Call me sad or paraniod, but I've seen too many backstabbing people in my days. I guess that I like to play it safe. Many of the people that I do associate with are all over 70 years old. My wife says that I'm a young old guy, but I've learned that most of the time these friends aren't going to get you in trouble. They are really good to listen to and have a lot of wisdom.
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Old 11-09-2007, 11:40 AM
 
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I do not know many men who have real close friends. I see men who have drinking buddies, activity partners (golf and bowing) and groups of work friends who have lunch and talk about sports. But none of the men I know are really true friends who you could:

Call in the middle of the night crying
Have lunch with one on one and spill your heart out to
Spend hours on the phone talking to
Write long rambling emails or letters to

I think women have closer friendships and I am envious about it. Do you agree?
Here's how it is with my best friend:

I'll call him in the middle of the night drunk to let him know what a great time I'm having or that I hit the jackpot in Vegas.
I'll have lunch with him one on one and feel like everyone thinks we're gay (that's why we eat at the bar).
I spend hours talking to him over the XBOX360 wireless headset while we play video games together.
We write long rambling emails back and forth talking about XBOX360 or what our weekend plans are.
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Old 11-09-2007, 04:48 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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I do not know many men who have real close friends. I see men who have drinking buddies, activity partners (golf and bowing) and groups of work friends who have lunch and talk about sports. But none of the men I know are really true friends who you could:

Call in the middle of the night crying
Have lunch with one on one and spill your heart out to
Spend hours on the phone talking to
Write long rambling emails or letters to

I think women have closer friendships and I am envious about it. Do you agree?
I have several good friends with whom I can talk to - you could say we've spilt our hearts to eachother. The other instances you list are usually specific for female friends (I have called a female friend in the middle of the night crying - I'm male). Men usually dont put much emotion into talking with other men.
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Old 11-09-2007, 05:10 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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My boyfriend has two best male friends. One he went to college with. However we consider each other our dearest best friends and we talk about much more intimate and sensitive topics than he ever talks about with his male friends. Guy talk is definitely not equal to girl talk. And men aren't supposed to show any weaknesses in front of other males.
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Old 11-09-2007, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have many close male friends, one i've kept in close touch with since I was 19, i'm 49 now. But if they or myself ever cry over the phone, someone real close better have died. My guy friends and I feel a closeness from either years of knowing each other or we click on a sport or everyday comedy. I'm not real emotional person unless its real bad.
My wife is the same way, if she were real honest with me she'd say she prefers her male friends.
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Old 11-11-2007, 07:39 PM
 
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I don't really cry about things to other guys (and I am gay) but I do like talking or complaining about who annoys me and I sometimes like to make fun of other people who annoy, hurt, or irritate me on purpose.

Concerning sensitivity. I think some guys are pretty capable of being sensitive. They should be IF they are really good friends. Sometimes people need to be related to or understood and that makes the friendship all that much more powerful. BUT is that now starting to sound like a female friendship????? just curious!
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Old 11-11-2007, 07:50 PM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Goodtype: Your question seems to have been answered most succintly thus far. Your feedback/response?
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Old 11-11-2007, 09:56 PM
 
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I have a friend like that. I've known this person for around four years...one of the only persons i could tell my whole life story to, or any dark secrets I have in my life. Actually, it's kind of funny...everything you talk about I've done...most recently he's been abroad and I'm here in the states, and we keep in touch by either typing long rambling emails or through AIM...
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