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My mother used my father's laptop the other day and found his email open. She saw several emails with highly sexual content and many of them were answers to escort ads.
They had a huge argument and my father said he also had reasons to doubt her. He said he was always suspicious about me (I'm the younger son and the one he likes the least). Therefore he wants a paternity test done on me and my brothers as well.
He's 65 and she's 57. She keeps crying and doesn't know what to do. I know what she should do but she has never left him. In the past he has got two of his assistants and three of his patients pregnant but he always managed to convince them to have an abortion.
Women, any suggestion? I'm okay with the paternity test, there's no way I'm not his son. The nose, the eyes, the mouth are copies of his. I even have the same birth mark in the chest.
She should get a paternity test and a good divorce lawyer.
Agree. He is clearly planning a divorce. Whether he will go through with it, who knows? But she should start now with protecting herself. Getting her name off his debts, her money in accounts he does not have access to, etc. A lawyer will advise her.
If he is doing this stuff, he may have already hidden money that is hers in secret accounts. He doesn't sound like ethics are high on his priority list, I am sorry to say.
She should get a paternity test and a good divorce lawyer.
That's what I've been telling her since I was a kid but she never listened. Now she will say she's too old for that and that he's a good grandfather after all.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
Agree. He is clearly planning a divorce. Whether he will go through with it, who knows? But she should start now with protecting herself. Getting her name off his debts, her money in accounts he does not have access to, etc. A lawyer will advise her.
If he is doing this stuff, he may have already hidden money that is hers in secret accounts. He doesn't sound like ethics are high on his priority list, I am sorry to say.
In any jurisdiction I'm familiar with, half the income and assets acquired since they were married is legally hers. In some locales, half of anything he had before marriage also is. The assumption is that they are one unit, economically, and that any income he had was helped by her support at home.
I really think she should hire someone to look for hidden assets. At the very least, run a credit report on him, find out if there are any debts she does not know about. So many women get stuck with 50% of big bills they didn't know existed, run up while he was cheating.
My mother used my father's laptop the other day and found his email open. She saw several emails with highly sexual content and many of them were answers to escort ads.
They had a huge argument and my father said he also had reasons to doubt her. He said he was always suspicious about me (I'm the younger son and the one he likes the least). Therefore he wants a paternity test done on me and my brothers as well.
He's 65 and she's 57. She keeps crying and doesn't know what to do. I know what she should do but she has never left him. In the past he has got two of his assistants and three of his patients pregnant but he always managed to convince them to have an abortion.
Women, any suggestion? I'm okay with the paternity test, there's no way I'm not his son. The nose, the eyes, the mouth are copies of his. I even have the same birth mark in the chest.
If he wants a paternity test, he should go ahead and pay for one himself.
It's unfortunate that she won't leave him. She's a year older than one of my sisters, and I'm trying to picture my sister in that kind of situation. When I think of how NOT old she is, and how much life and living she still has to do, I can't imagine any reason your mom should sacrifice her golden years to such emotional abuse and infidelity. In fact, I'd say it would be fitting if your whole family left him to die alone.
That's what I've been telling her since I was a kid but she never listened. Now she will say she's too old for that and that he's a good grandfather after all.
She doesn't have much money of her own.
She should get half of what the accumulated during their marriage - or at least enough to live on. And you're never too old to walk away from an abusive relationship. Even if he doesn't physically abuse her - he is clearly abusing her emotionally.
In any jurisdiction I'm familiar with, half the income and assets acquired since they were married is legally hers. In some locales, half of anything he had before marriage also is. The assumption is that they are one unit, economically, and that any income he had was helped by her support at home.
I really think she should hire someone to look for hidden assets. At the very least, run a credit report on him, find out if there are any debts she does not know about. So many women get stuck with 50% of big bills they didn't know existed, run up while he was cheating.
I'm not sure about the whole picture but I know he has a lot of assets in the name of his brothers.
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