What Should I Do About This Friendship? (jealous, college, insecure)
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It doesn't mater to me. I guess what bothers me is how I feel like I've been left in the dust, only used when absolutely needed. It's not so much who he hangs out with, although the way the people he hangs out with conduct themselves is not preferable to me.
If you relationship makes you feel that way, it's not a good relationship.
If your friend wanted to, he could call you and say, "Hey, we're headed to the beach, we'll pick you up at 10." Or, "We're at the coffee shop; come on over."
Since that's not the case, time for you to get over your "hurt" and move on. Be congenial. But find your own group and enjoy life. Since you're young, you'll find many acquaintances as you age - some will be true friends and some will be on-again-off-again. That's the continuum of life.
When the "cool crowd" drops your sometime-friend, you can welcome him back, but in the meantime, you'll have developed your own circle. Good luck.
If your friend wanted to, he could call you and say, "Hey, we're headed to the beach, we'll pick you up at 10." Or, "We're at the coffee shop; come on over."
Since that's not the case, time for you to get over your "hurt" and move on. Be congenial. But find your own group and enjoy life. Since you're young, you'll find many acquaintances as you age - some will be true friends and some will be on-again-off-again. That's the continuum of life.
When the "cool crowd" drops your sometime-friend, you can welcome him back, but in the meantime, you'll have developed your own circle. Good luck.
Thanks. I guess you are right, it's time to move on. Makes me sad, but it would be foolish to be hanging around waiting for him, when he ain't sure as hell waiting for me.
Thank you to everyone in advance. I have had a friend since I was very young. We used to hang out all of the time, and for a while, we were best friends.
Well, as life goes on (I will not specify my age), people move apart. I believe that is what happening here. He is now hanging out with the "popular" guys and has left me in the dust. He only calls me when others are not available. Now, I know he really likes me, but it seems like he is just too caught up in his own image and in this "clique" so to speak.
I'm just at a loss as to where to go from here. Part of me just says screw him, but the other part wants to do something, anything, to rekindle the friendship.
What do you all think I should do? Keep in mind, I am a VERY loyal friend.
It appears that that your friend has fallen into superficial gay culture. "He is just to caught up in his own image" and you from your title are a male it appears. If what I surmise is accurate - better get used to that part of the culture...it is what it is. I would forget about attempting to KEEP this person as a friend.
Best off just letting your friend go, I was in a similar situation with an old friend of mine. Ever since I let the whole thing just go and moved on to other friends, I've had less drama regarding the whole thing.
Thank you to everyone in advance. I have had a friend since I was very young. We used to hang out all of the time, and for a while, we were best friends.
Well, as life goes on (I will not specify my age), people move apart. I believe that is what happening here. He is now hanging out with the "popular" guys and has left me in the dust. He only calls me when others are not available. Now, I know he really likes me, but it seems like he is just too caught up in his own image and in this "clique" so to speak.
I'm just at a loss as to where to go from here. Part of me just says screw him, but the other part wants to do something, anything, to rekindle the friendship.
What do you all think I should do? Keep in mind, I am a VERY loyal friend.
eh, let it go and see where his path takes him. This is a natural progression of getting older chronologically but some not getting wiser. He may eventually tire of the new group and come back but he may not. When he contacts you if you want to spend time with him do, otherwise don't just don't feel guilty about not wanting to be the last call if you do decide not to visit with him.
I had a best friend for 20 years. Then he disappeared - for 20 years...Then he pops up on Facebook and suggests that he buy a beer for an old friend................No thanks....Where were you for 20 years? I expect honesty and loyalty from "friends" In the last 10 years - I can say I do not have any close friends..my family and extended family are my friends. The other people I know are associates. Mature adults do not need "friends" - it's the real world now and this is not high school.
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