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View Poll Results: If a past tormentor of you was terminally sick, how would you feel?
I would feel vindicated and not sorry for them at all 22 18.03%
A part of me would feel satisfied, another part would feel pity 17 13.93%
I'd feel nothing, I wouldn't care 52 42.62%
I would feel sorry for them and would tell them I forgive them and make peace 31 25.41%
Voters: 122. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 08-23-2013, 11:42 PM
 
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Has happened a couple of times. I wasn't happy about it, just figured that Mother Nature and Father Time do catch up to us all, as a PP said.

Had one man I'd served with in the Army pass away much too young. Many people who spoke of him always said And he was always so wonderful to women. It would appear I was the one exception to that rule. I never told anyone, thought nothing positive could come of it.
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Old 08-24-2013, 06:01 AM
 
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I could be a mean kid, too. You can't celebrate because someone bullied you WHEN THEY WERE A CHILD. I could see where you were coming from if they were an adult at the time, say if they were 18 then and are 50 now. Children cannot be judged like adults.

I outgrew my mean streak when I was about 8.
I would put the age cut off at 14. If 14 and up then they knew what they were doing. Under 14 the proper judgement just isn't there.
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Old 08-24-2013, 06:28 AM
 
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I certainly don't condone bullying, but I wouldn't wish cancer on anyone and would feel bad for the person.
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Old 08-24-2013, 06:47 AM
 
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I could be a mean kid, too. You can't celebrate because someone bullied you WHEN THEY WERE A CHILD. I could see where you were coming from if they were an adult at the time, say if they were 18 then and are 50 now. Children cannot be judged like adults.

I outgrew my mean streak when I was about 8.
What? So, 18 is the magical number when people suddenly knows right from wrong? What about high school bullies? 15, 16, 17?

So you are responsible enough to hold a job and drive, but you don't know that it is wrong to taunt another person?

These excuses baffle me.
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Old 08-24-2013, 07:13 AM
 
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I would feel terrible for them. People are in pain and they lash out in strange, hurtful ways. A true bully gets satisfaction from someone else's pain and misery. If bullying is such a terrible thing...why would we take any satisfaction in knowing that someone has contracted a horrible disease/disorder? If someone bullies you or hurts you, to continue living in that hurt, throughout your entire life, simply means that you GIVE them the power to continue to hurt you. You're also becoming a toxic waste dump, that's destroying itself from the inside out.

Is it normal to get that twinge of relief, when we see someone who has been a truly evil person, get hit with something awful? Yeah....it is. The thing of it is....it is also normal, to feel guilty, when you have those joyful feelings, after hearing of someone's affliction.

In the case of molesters and abusers, there should be a measure of relief, that they're not going to be able to continue in their wicked ways...that they've finally been stopped, but we should never allow ourselves to become heartless monsters ourselves.
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Old 08-24-2013, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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What? So, 18 is the magical number when people suddenly knows right from wrong? What about high school bullies? 15, 16, 17?

So you are responsible enough to hold a job and drive, but you don't know that it is wrong to taunt another person?

These excuses baffle me.
Try that "just kids" logic in a courtroom in Virginia. Virginia has tried kids as young as 14 as adults knowing there is no parole in this state. Apparently Virginia feels 14 is the age you should know what the hell you are doing. I agree with Virginia and not just bc I live here.
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Old 08-24-2013, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Would you feel sorry for them, or would you feel like they were being punished for what they did to you/for being a horrible human being?
I would feel sorry for them, but I definitely would not feel like they were being punished for what they did.

There are a lot of good people suffer from cancer as well, is it some kind of punishment for them too?

Cancer is a horrible disease. It is not some kind of punishment.
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Old 08-24-2013, 08:42 AM
 
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I could be a mean kid, too. You can't celebrate because someone bullied you WHEN THEY WERE A CHILD. I could see where you were coming from if they were an adult at the time, say if they were 18 then and are 50 now. Children cannot be judged like adults.

I outgrew my mean streak when I was about 8.
Of course you make excuses, since you were a bully, yourself.
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Old 08-24-2013, 11:24 AM
 
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Yeah, I couldn't choose "vindicated" because to me that would imply that he got cancer because of what he did to me. If people ever got what they deserved we would be living in a very different world. I'm also not sure the punishment fits the crime. Now, if they got some sort of public humiliation as a result of their bullying tendencies, that would rock.

I would, however, enjoy a bit of schadenfreude at the bully's expense. I did when one of my bullies died of cancer.
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Old 08-24-2013, 01:00 PM
 
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I wouldn't gloat over anyone getting cancer.

But I would a little happy that a bully got it this time as opposed to a nice person.

I'm trying to imagine if this happened to the worst bully I encountered in school... I'd probably think to myself "bye bye a******" and get on with my life.
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