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Old 08-27-2013, 01:38 PM
 
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So because you pay for a car, you get to drive it wherever and however you want? You pay for the clothes, so you can wear shorts to a wedding, right? You pay for an airline ticket, so if you want to get drunk and sing all through the flight, that's no problem? Etiquette is about being sensitive to situations and making people feel comfortable, and your behavior with your phone raises red flags for some people. Maybe you should think about that instead of getting hostile.
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In many situations, having paid for your phone means little or nothing at all.
Or if I've paid for a concert, I want to see the show (isn't that the whole point?!), not be interrupted constantly by luminous squares of video screens thrust in front of my face.
Yes, if I am paying for an event (concert, play, show) elhelmete said it well. People who do this
are oblivious to the meaning of common courtesy. Too often, I hear users discuss very private
conversations (and speaking loudly) not suitable when children are around AND I don't want
to hear it either.
If people are going to act like fools, there are other crazy fools out there too
Plus using a smartphone rather than online you run the risk of someone accessing your bank account
and all your other important information (lack of security features in public places).
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Old 08-27-2013, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Area 51.5
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Amen, and thank you very much.

Frankly, I think we're starting to get a bit ridiculous in terms of cell phone usage bashing. You'd think cell phone users were gassing Jews or burning crosses on people's lawns in Mississippi or something. Get over yourselves already.

You know what? Unless you're talking about a situation where safety is compromised or it's actually disruptive, news flash--it's none of your business.

There are things I don't care for that I have to admit having an aggravated response to, but they're not my business. I don't like tattoos on women, to me it's like graffiti being sprayed on the rocks at the Grand Canyon. (Tattoos on men--I'm heterosexual, so I don't care.) I despise the SUV fad. I don't like women wearing a bikini top & "boy-cut" shorts for bottoms while at the pool etc, or with bottoms with a different color--to me they should wear the bikini, NO SHORTS, but with the MATCHING bottom (that is the same color, pattern and not "boy cut,"), ONLY the bikini, NOTHING ELSE, or else just wear normal clothes. Either you're wearing a swimsuit or you're wearing normal clothes--not some of both, that's just not the way you do it, if you ask me.

But you know what? I can rant about my feelings on those styles etc all I want, but at the end of the day, they have the right to wear what they want, drive what they want, tattoo themselves all they want, and they can say to me "what business is it of yours" all they want too.

Same thing here.

And by the way I'm 44 and well remember the days before cellular phones, but that is not itself a reason we shouldn't have them now. We also used to not have shots for polio, or air conditioning, or electricity, or the ability to get around by any means other than a horse or a mule. I used to have to get around in the car without a GPS, and was always getting lost, so I'm glad we have GPS as an option. It's called PROGRESS.

And by the way, in church, during funerals or weddings etc, my phone is on vibrate. You will not be hearing "RING!!!!" from me. But if I glance at it to check something--it's none of your business.

LRH
Then hike your little self down the road and stop making it my business!

Sheesh! Such a long-winded diatribe about nothing!
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Old 08-27-2013, 02:52 PM
 
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In many situations, having paid for your phone means little or nothing at all.

I don't think "checking in" is an example of offensive behavior, not by a longshot. You'd have to be pretty thin skinned to be offended by someone else doing that.

But if I've paid for a meal at a restaurant and the person next to me is taking phone pix with flash of every damn plate that comes his way...that's disruptive behavior.

Or if I've paid for a concert, I want to see the show (isn't that the whole point?!), not be interrupted constantly by luminous squares of video screens thrust in front of my face.
If someone taking a flash photo of their dinner plate bothers you, you're just too freaking sensitive & the heck with pandering to that. Maybe I think it's "rude" to wear purple or pink if you're a man. Maybe I think it's silly for a woman to wear a straw hat with a business suit dress, but those things, silly as they may seem to me, are still none of my business & not worthy of outrage.

You see, I happen to be someone who was doing the "look at where & what I'm eating" poses, only with a real camera, as far back as 2003. Long before Instagram & Facebook and smartphone cameras everywhere, I was taking "silly pictures" of petty things with what was then my first-ever digital camera. I had always wanted to do so even in the 80s when I was a teenager, but I couldn't afford to feed the camera that much film, but now digital was liberating me.

I continue to do so to this day. It's not rude, at all, and people who think it is are just bitter people who would complain about a field full of sunflowers (assuming they don't have allergies). It's a matter of such principle to me that at one place the restaurant owner complained about me doing that, when for crying out loud it was my wife's birthday, and there were NO CUSTOMERS besides us in the whole building, so obviously there were no customers complaining about it disrupting their dinner etc. Yet for some ridiculous reason he asked me to stop, and he lost me as a customer over it & I told him so. It may be his place, but that doesn't make it okay for him to be have been such a prick & I sure as heck didn't need to continue to eat there. (In fact when I told this story to others they knew who I was talking about & told me that he in fact was something of a prick in general. That explains a lot.)

We instead went to another place & when I told them of my story they made it clear I was welcome to take all the photos I wanted, and I did so. Is it a vain activity? Maybe it is, but it's none of your freaking business either.

LRH
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Old 08-27-2013, 03:23 PM
 
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If someone taking a flash photo of their dinner plate bothers you, you're just too freaking sensitive & the heck with pandering to that.
You see, I happen to be someone who was doing the "look at where & what I'm eating" poses, only with a real camera, as far back as 2003. Long before Instagram & Facebook and smartphone cameras everywhere, I was taking "silly pictures" of petty things with what was then my first-ever digital camera. I had always wanted to do so even in the 80s when I was a teenager, but I couldn't afford to feed the camera that much film, but now digital was liberating me. It's a matter of such principle to me that at one place the restaurant owner complained about me doing that, when for crying out loud it was my wife's birthday, and there were NO CUSTOMERS besides us in the whole building, so obviously there were no customers complaining about it disrupting their dinner etc.
LRH
Doesn't matter if there were no customers that you could see. There was the wait staff and other
employees. You were on private property and the law (put a link below to help any photographer)
is clear that if the owner sets a rule about taking photographs of any kind and you are asked to stop
and do not, you can be escorted out and be arrested. No difference either when you are at a concert
and they make an announcement no photographs (due to piracy and copyright issues).

https://www.aclu.org/free-speech/kno...-photographers
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Old 08-27-2013, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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I always laugh when I see people photographing their food (unless its some kind of special event with a cake or something).
I guess some people just don't get out much.
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Old 08-27-2013, 10:44 PM
 
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Doesn't matter if there were no customers that you could see. There was the wait staff and other
employees. You were on private property and the law (put a link below to help any photographer)
is clear that if the owner sets a rule about taking photographs of any kind and you are asked to stop
and do not, you can be escorted out and be arrested. No difference either when you are at a concert
and they make an announcement no photographs (due to piracy and copyright issues).

https://www.aclu.org/free-speech/kno...-photographers
I am well aware of that, to me that is not the point. The point is that it's STUPID and unnecessary to tell a customer taking snaps of he & his wife eating out on her birthday that he can't do that. I mean gee whiz, what in the world is it going to harm? It harms NOTHING and NO ONE and it's STUPID and I'm not going to go along with it, if that means leaving then I will do so, as I in fact did.

That's why I left, and I won't be back, & I let the person know, & anyone who asks I make sure to tell them not to eat there. Not that I have to--again, when I mention the place, SEVERAL people have told me, for different reasons apparently, that they know the guy & find him a prick also.

LRH
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:27 AM
 
Location: Texas
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That's your opinion. Some people enjoy seeing where other people are and what they're doing. I have a friend who checks in at least 40 times a day. I don't enjoy that, so she's muted. But my kids, close friends, family around the world - I like seeing what they're up to. But we're a witty group who has funny things to say about where we are and love to find unique ways to share mundane things. I respect that you think it's pointless and narcissistic, but I don't agree with you. And I absolutely don't agree with your broad and smug statement that no one cares where *I* check in. You don't know everyone and you certainly don't know what they're thinking. If your statement were true, FourSquare and stuff like it wouldn't even exist.
Actually, I do like seeing and hearing what my friends and family around the world are doing or what thoughts they may have. That is why I have facebook.

Where it gets a little ridiculous is when people check in everywhere..."At the sock store buying socks."
"Getting a late lunch at Starbucks." "Picked lint from my bellybutton."
That sort of mundane nonsense is excessive IMO. And of course it is MY opinion.
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Old 08-28-2013, 06:05 AM
 
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I don't care if people are taking photos of their food. Sometimes they do it for yelp and post photos there with reviews of the restaurant. I've seen those and sometimes it helps the review.

Like Larry says, it's none of my business if someone wants to stay glued to the phone for hours on end. My only gripe is when they do so and intrude on my outings. However, I'm wondering if personal interaction is paying the price for cell phones.

As far as the attitude of one here that he pays for his phone, so he can use it whenever and however he wants, that's an immature self centered brat. It makes you think his mother was negligent in the manners department. This is the type of guy that almost misses his exit on the freeway, cuts across four lanes of traffic to get to it almost causing multiple accidents and flips you off while doing it. Self-centered inconsiderate jerks.

Use your phone all you want. Just don't inconvenient me. And using your phone in a restaurant doesn't inconvience me as long as you're not loud and obnoxious. And yes, I think screaming kids in a restaurant are just as bad.
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Old 08-28-2013, 06:17 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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My phone actually collects dust. Most of the time it's not charged. I only have it for long trips, i.e., emergency situation. Really. I hate the damn thing.
Mine too! I keep threatening to take it to the driveway and run over it! When I leave the house without it, forget it, I feel such a sense of freedom.
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Old 08-28-2013, 07:31 AM
 
Location: Location: Location
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Outside of law and the rules of a business, I'll determine I am causing others around an issue with my phone use. Ironically I'm eating lunch as I'm typing this and no one around has a problem with it. Now the screaming kids at the table next to me, way more annoying than a damn Galaxy Note II. Where is the outrage over that?
Hey, that's my screaming kid. I paid for it and I can take it whereever I want. If you don't like it you can just get over it.
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