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I come from the era of when, with landlines, people answered the phone always & to not do so was just the most weird thing for a person to do. To me, it is rude to just ignore a call just because you don't feel like talking. Is it the right of a person to do so? Of course it is, and in fact if you're talking about a situation where you're tied up, busy, in the shower etc, by all means. If it's your boss bugging you outside of 8-5 thinking you're supposed to be available outside of work, yes ignore it. If you're in the theatre & have it on silent, absolutely.
But this whole thing of where people are almost PROUD of just ignoring calls as a regular thing, I think it gets ridiculous sometimes. If I had broken down on the side of the road & was trying to call my buddy & found out he was just purposely not answering my phone call to him because he didn't feel like talking (vs he was in the shower or occupied, say, involved in a do-it-yourself repair project etc), I'd be beyond ticked off at such selfishness on his part & yes I would consider it selfishness on HIS part.
Friends should BE THERE for each other for such things, not act selfish in the name of "boundaries." I myself would feel like such a prick if I had ignored someone's call & found out later on they were calling me due to being broken down on the side of the road & I had just ignored him because I didn't feel like talking. That's just selfish. People who do that sort of thing, to me it would serve them right for THEM to break down on the side of the road & no one answer their call, including AAA. (Understand--if you're talking about someone who is a "drama king" always needing this & that every other second to the point that you as a friend are getting bugged seemingly several times daily, then that's different.)
And thereby hangs a tale...
If people weren't always and forever calling one another to report on what they just did/are going to do, maybe it would encourage them to pay attention when they get a call.
My family is aware that I don't call on my cell just to chat. When they see my number come up on their cell, they know they better answer because I'm in trouble somewhere.
They also know that I don't carry it around with me in my hot little fist all day. It sits on the kitchen table and I'm a tad hard of hearing so I don't always hear it ring. You want me? Call the landline. If I don't answer, I'm not there.
You sound like one of those dolts that feel its ok to turn on your phone in a theater as long as its just a minute or two. I'd ask you to turn it off or have you thrown out. I've done it before.
If you can't see the rudeness of talking on your cell while at a purchase counter, your mother did a pretty poor job of installing manners in you.
Dont worry, by their name, obviously they are from east texas. I am not surprised that he is rude as most of the people here are. Its always about ill do what i want and *********. People have no manners here.
That video was hilarious! I tend to ignore my phone when I'm out doing something fun or spending time with a friend or SO. When I'm on the bus running errands or on my way to work, I tend to play on my phone a bit more, but it's mainly to play music. I don't have facebook, twitter, instagram, etc. so I have no need or desire to take pics and videos of everything going on in my life like a lot of people do nowadays.
I have a *really* cool phone (Galaxy S4), but I usually forget it exists when I'm doing something fun or taking care of business.
Funny thing is that when I was with my ex, at the end of our relationship when I grew tired/annoyed/agitated by his presence, I would get on my phone a lot to "escape" him. So yeah...
I'm afraid my boyfriend and I are a bit dependent on them. However I would like to call attention to the fact that neither of us have joined the ranks of the Apple fashion accessory fan club. We made a pact with each other. No iPhones, no iAnything.
I come from the era of when, with landlines, people answered the phone always & to not do so was just the most weird thing for a person to do. To me, it is rude to just ignore a call just because you don't feel like talking. Is it the right of a person to do so? Of course it is, and in fact if you're talking about a situation where you're tied up, busy, in the shower etc, by all means. If it's your boss bugging you outside of 8-5 thinking you're supposed to be available outside of work, yes ignore it. If you're in the theatre & have it on silent, absolutely.
But this whole thing of where people are almost PROUD of just ignoring calls as a regular thing, I think it gets ridiculous sometimes. If I had broken down on the side of the road & was trying to call my buddy & found out he was just purposely not answering my phone call to him because he didn't feel like talking (vs he was in the shower or occupied, say, involved in a do-it-yourself repair project etc), I'd be beyond ticked off at such selfishness on his part & yes I would consider it selfishness on HIS part.
Friends should BE THERE for each other for such things, not act selfish in the name of "boundaries." I myself would feel like such a prick if I had ignored someone's call & found out later on they were calling me due to being broken down on the side of the road & I had just ignored him because I didn't feel like talking. That's just selfish. People who do that sort of thing, to me it would serve them right for THEM to break down on the side of the road & no one answer their call, including AAA. (Understand--if you're talking about someone who is a "drama king" always needing this & that every other second to the point that you as a friend are getting bugged seemingly several times daily, then that's different.)
I WAS talking about drama queens...if its someone calling who usually has something of importance to say OR someone who rarely calls I generally answer. Plus I don't have friends who live locally so me being of aid in an emergency isn't likely. Also if I NEED to speak with someone URGENTLY I will shoot them a text so they can determine if its worth their while to respond immediately. I don't believe I am OBLIGATED to take peoples calls. Everytime my phone rings its a decsion making process and I weigh the pros and cons.
Off topic but I am also not someone who feels obligated to answer the door when someone stops by unexpectedly either.
Its not being a bad friend imho...its expecting a certain level of courtsey from others.
Frankly, I think we're starting to get a bit ridiculous in terms of cell phone usage bashing. You'd think cell phone users were gassing Jews or burning crosses on people's lawns in Mississippi or something. Get over yourselves already.
You know what? Unless you're talking about a situation where safety is compromised or it's actually disruptive, news flash--it's none of your business.
There are things I don't care for that I have to admit having an aggravated response to, but they're not my business. I don't like tattoos on women, to me it's like graffiti being sprayed on the rocks at the Grand Canyon. (Tattoos on men--I'm heterosexual, so I don't care.) I despise the SUV fad. I don't like women wearing a bikini top & "boy-cut" shorts for bottoms while at the pool etc, or with bottoms with a different color--to me they should wear the bikini, NO SHORTS, but with the MATCHING bottom (that is the same color, pattern and not "boy cut,"), ONLY the bikini, NOTHING ELSE, or else just wear normal clothes. Either you're wearing a swimsuit or you're wearing normal clothes--not some of both, that's just not the way you do it, if you ask me.
But you know what? I can rant about my feelings on those styles etc all I want, but at the end of the day, they have the right to wear what they want, drive what they want, tattoo themselves all they want, and they can say to me "what business is it of yours" all they want too.
Same thing here.
And by the way I'm 44½ and well remember the days before cellular phones, but that is not itself a reason we shouldn't have them now. We also used to not have shots for polio, or air conditioning, or electricity, or the ability to get around by any means other than a horse or a mule. I used to have to get around in the car without a GPS, and was always getting lost, so I'm glad we have GPS as an option. It's called PROGRESS.
And by the way, in church, during funerals or weddings etc, my phone is on vibrate. You will not be hearing "RING!!!!" from me. But if I glance at it to check something--it's none of your business.
LRH
Same here! We used to not have cars, indoor plumbing,but, I don't hear a lot of complaining about that. My phone just helps me so much with music, directions, e mail etc, I'm so glad I have my Droid razor.
You sound like one of those dolts that feel its ok to turn on your phone in a theater as long as its just a minute or two. I'd ask you to turn it off or have you thrown out. I've done it before.
If you can't see the rudeness of talking on your cell while at a purchase counter, your mother did a pretty poor job of installing manners in you.
Oh my you sound so scary.....next time I look at mine at the movie theatre I dare you to get me thrown out
And you don't think it's selfish for you to expect and demand that anyone that you call be at your beck and call the second you want to speak with them? If you've left your buddy a message saying that you need help and he's purposely ignoring it, that's one thing, but just because your name comes up on the caller ID doesn't mean he has to drop what he's doing no matter what. That's life. Your issues are no one's priority but your own.
EXACTLY! And what people define as "busy" varies greatly. I feel if I'm outside in the evening sitting on my deck watching my dogs run around while enjoying a glass of wine...I'm BUSY. If for whatever reason I don't wish to be disturbed I'm busy. IMHO "busy" isn't something the caller has the right to define.
I'm afraid my boyfriend and I are a bit dependent on them. However I would like to call attention to the fact that neither of us have joined the ranks of the Apple fashion accessory fan club. We made a pact with each other. No iPhones, no iAnything.
For that I applaud you. It's off-topic a bit, but yes, I am most certainly "anything but Apple" in my opinion about electronics. I'd almost rather starve than let someone GIVE me something that was "iJunk" or whatever.
Back on-topic, to me the thing is there is so much unjustified hatred for people's "umbilical cord" feelings towards their phones. Unless it is affecting you, and 85% of the time I'd say it isn't, then it's not any of your business. Can you say you think it's silly? To a certain extent, that's fine, but beyond that, it starts to get to be just mean-spirited and hateful, and there's no call for it.
What makes people like this? Where do they get off thinking that they have any business telling someone they ought to turn their phone off or be escorted to the door? It's ridiculous and baseless. I don't owe ANYONE except maybe my boss an explanation as to why I'm using my phone, so long as it's not a library and I'm not yelling at the top of my lungs or I'm swerving into someone else's lane on the road from texting-driving (in such cases then yes people do have a right to say something). Even in the case of a boss--if you're going to preach at me for using a phone for 5 seconds, then how about that person over there chit-chatting with a co-worker while not doing any work? Loafing is loafing, it doesn't matter if it's due to a phone, a hamburger, or watching cute girls from the office window.
Even then, if you're okay with, saw, laws against texting-driving, are you equally okay with laws about eating/drinking while driving, staring at cute girls jogging while driving, fiddling with the car stereo while driving, referring kids in the backseat while driving? Are you going to be equally vocal about disruptive kids in the supermarket, or people not keeping their dogs quiet & they make the whole neighborhood noisy? If your answer is "yes," then at least you're being equal & consistent--if not, then frankly, you're a prejudiced bigot.
What really surprises me are bosses who think they can confiscate your cell phone. Since when is that an okay thing to do? Can we confiscate people's wallets, their IDs, their money, their tablets? Oh no, you're not getting your hands on my phone, if I have to quit my job or leave the premises okay, but you WILL NOT get your hands on it. Period.
Regardless, there's no need for this vitrol. If someone is being noisy in a theatre or disrupting you, whether they're coughing a lot, their kids are noisy, they're farting every other second, or their phone-light is bothering you, yes say something. If they also hit you from crossing the center line while driving because they're staring at a cute female jogger, stuffing their face with food, fiddling in the glove box for their CD collection (does anyone even do that anymore?), reaching for something in the back-seat, you have every right to say something.
But when cell phone people are singled out, that's a form of bigotry & it's wrong.
LRH
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