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My husbands little brother, almost 6, was caught at the end of an act of what I would hope to be just curiosity. Him and his little cousin, 5, were hiding behind a chair and when my father in law checked on them his son was pulling his pants and underwear up in the butt and his nephew was pulling up his pants in the front. Now, that signals something wrong to me. I would understand if one hadn't had the back down when the front was down on the other. I was sexually abused as a child so I know when something just isn't right. And what makes it even more perplexing and makes me suspect it was more than curiosity is that my husbands stepsister was molested by her dad and he has been left alone with my husbands brother many times before. Also, my fatherinlaws sister said that he other grandchildren have been caught several times touching each other as well as her other grandchild which was caught behind the chair with his penis pulled out. Supposedly, the mother knows and has said nothing to the kids. And it is believed that the kids have been touched by an adult. I don't know what to do because I'm split between curiosity and inappropriate. It makes me afraid for my kids. I don't want the same thing to happen to them that happened to me and I don't want to call the cops or cps just in case it is just curiosity. I need help!!
I don't think you have grounds to call CPS, but if this is 'believed' to be going on, why are the adults leaving their kids alone with those they suspect? Why are these children EVER unsupervised?
If you have any reason to believe these children are being molested (and given that they're being left alone with a man who reportedly molested his daughter, you have strong reason), you need to call CPS. If you do not and these children go on to be molested when someone suspected and could've protected them... I don't know how I would be able to live with that. Can you? You were once in that position (and I'm sorry for that.) What would you want someone to do in their shoes?
If it turns out you're wrong, then nothing comes of it. But if he really molested his daughter, you're probably NOT wrong. It's never a one time thing with those types. They keep seeking out victims again and again until someone stops them.
My husbands little brother, almost 6, was caught at the end of an act of what I would hope to be just curiosity. Him and his little cousin, 5, were hiding behind a chair and when my father in law checked on them his son was pulling his pants and underwear up in the butt and his nephew was pulling up his pants in the front. Now, that signals something wrong to me. I would understand if one hadn't had the back down when the front was down on the other. I was sexually abused as a child so I know when something just isn't right. And what makes it even more perplexing and makes me suspect it was more than curiosity is that my husbands stepsister was molested by her dad and he has been left alone with my husbands brother many times before. Also, my fatherinlaws sister said that he other grandchildren have been caught several times touching each other as well as her other grandchild which was caught behind the chair with his penis pulled out. Supposedly, the mother knows and has said nothing to the kids. And it is believed that the kids have been touched by an adult. I don't know what to do because I'm split between curiosity and inappropriate. It makes me afraid for my kids. I don't want the same thing to happen to them that happened to me and I don't want to call the cops or cps just in case it is just curiosity. I need help!!
You sure don`t need to remain quiet!! Tell someone and get this looked into, ASAP!
Make a list of each weird thing you have listed here, gather the names and addresses of those involved or who might have knowledge and call CPS. Maybe nothing will come of it this time, but at least if a teacher or doctor notices something else and reports it, it will be in the system. I wouldn't tell anyone you are making the call either. You don't want any adult to get to the kids first and try to change what the children will say or frighten them.
Little children expressing curiosity is normal though, I myself got caught with 2 neighbors playing "I'll show you mine of you show me yours" when we were about 4, and I was not molested. So yes, ask some questions, but please be careful not to make them feel shame for being curious at that age.
If you are concerned about this behavior, the best thing you should do is to have this situation evaluated by a mental health professional. He or she would be able to access the situation to determine if it is anything more than experimentation. If they suspect sexual abuse, it will be his or her responsibility to notify law enforcement or CPS. This would not be your responsibility.
However, anyone can call to report suspected child abuse. You don't need proof or evidence of abuse. Only your suspicion is good enough. By law, they need to investigate each complaint.
Has anybody asked the boys what they were doing? Why not just tell the parents what you suspect?
That'd be the first thing I'd do...ask the boys. See what they say...see if they're copying what they've seen (hopefully not), or they're just curious...definitely talk to the boys first.
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