U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
Old 08-30-2013, 09:28 AM
Location: Somewhere
1,372 posts, read 1,851,849 times
Reputation: 2655


Originally Posted by cindersslipper View Post
Women are always getting told how we should wear our hair and I for one am heartily sick of it.

"cut it after 40" makes me cringe and as a result I am growing mine as long as I possibly can so I will be a 80 year old with a massive frizzy grey halo down to my butt.

I completely agree about the summer thing though. It gets sooo hot I always put it up.
I always heard that statement too. I also seem to run into hair stylists that want to cut my hair short and especially into a style that requires more work. I no longer let anyone cut my hair because even if I say just a trim...next thing I know they have cut 4 or more inches off!

Personally I like my hair longer (and I'm pushing 50) because it works for my type of hair and lifestyle. I know for some women shorter is easier to handle but for me shorter was always more difficult and I am no longer interested in anything that requires high maintenance (hair, nails, etc).

With longer hair all I need is to trim every so often. With shorter I would have to go to a salon a lot PLUS it required more work at home on a daily basis to keep it looking good. I also like that I can wear my hair in different styles some requiring basically hardly any effort (brush and ponytail). On days that I want to "dress up" a little more I might curl it or other days just blow dry straight (or use flat iron).

So women should do what suits them and not care if someone notices, compliments or looks at you in a funny way. However I do think that when you are married SOME consideration should be given to what your spouse likes. However if something really makes you unhappy and you want to change it a loving spouse should support your decision.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Old 08-30-2013, 10:29 AM
26,313 posts, read 24,404,548 times
Reputation: 15990
Originally Posted by i love living foods View Post
I don't know if it's rude, which is why I am asking you all.

I got my hair cut almost two months ago. It was very long and thick and I cut it very short. I always do this.

So this woman who owns a cafe sees me and says "Oh, you cut your hair!" And then...

*crickets chirping*

I'm like, "Yeah...." Uncomfortable silence. Waiting for her to tell me it looks nice. Nope. Nada.

So the next week I go back in there. Same deal. She goes "Oh, you cut your hair!"

I am like "Yup." More crickets doing their thang.

And then last night I had a young worker at another place make the same observation followed by nothing.

I get it. Some people might not like my 'do. Especially since I have very thick hair, perhaps they think it's crazy to cut.

But still...
Don't expect people to respond as you would like them to, or as you were raised....it won't happen....we were not all raised the same way, and sometimes our expectations in people cause problems, b/c no one is going to live up to our expectation....besides, are you happy with your hair? You don't need anyone esle to validate your appearance, as long as you feel comfortable....small potatoes.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Non-Romantic Relationships
Similar Threads
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 01:37 AM.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. | Please obey Forum Rules | Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top