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Sort of. I've had instafriends but they were situational, meaning when the situation changed (different job, moved away, schools over, etc) the friendship fizzled because we weren't coming in contact regularly. It's hard to keep a friendship when you don't see someone over the course of your daily life and have to put the effort in. That requires 2 people making that effort and usually 1 will find someone else to fill the void.
Definitely. I've had at least 4 friends at first sight friendships and all lasted years. In fact I'm still close with 2 or 3 after 20 years or more. I'm female and they were both male and female. Completely platonic in all cases. It was a "brother from another mother" type friendships, where you can just hang out, say anything, talk for hours about anything and nothing.
I was in a bar when I was just out of college with a group of general friends and standing on this up step talking with this guy I always bull''''ted with. This girl came out of the crowd, stood a step below up and just glared at him with the look of death. She was pissed. He explained she was an on an off of many at the same time, though I believe she thought otherwise, and I said, "Give me her number?" He said, "I'm not giving you her number, she's a nice girl you'll just corrupt her (laughing)" He finally did give me her number and she and I had a blast the first night we went out and have been close friends for some 20 years through marriage, children, divorce and everything in between.
Yes this has happened to me. Unfortunately though he's a penpal I met on an internet forum who lives thousands of miles away. So he must not be the one, then, and I'm still in the queue.
Anyway we have pretty comforting conversations and have similar and easily understandable feelings like quantum entangled particles.
I had a group of friends like this during my college years. Unfortunately life has spread us out to all different parts of the country these days so we can't get together as often but when we do it's as though no time has passed. The only bad thing is I look back at those days so fondly that I compare any new friendships to that golden era and they usually can't hold a flame .
When you look at all the friends you have had in your life, how many of them were a case of instant chemistry and immediate friendship from the first moment you met?
There have been a few but those "instant clicks" never were good predictors for long-lasting friendships.
The really good ones took awhile to develop.
It happened once, and she turned out to be a terrible friend.
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We've been friends for 20 years now and still going strong.
