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Old 09-02-2013, 05:59 PM
 
Location: Missouri
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Wow I have learned two new terms this week now (twerking and Boston marriage).

Anyway, I agree with the majority here, your house, your rules. If your parents are that uncomfortable with it then they should probably stay at a hotel or celebrate elsewhere.
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Old 09-02-2013, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Finally in NC
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I am wondering due to your difficulty with English that maybe you are not originally from the US and maybe your culture's customs/expectations are different than here in the US? I can't see a 32 year old's parents telling him he he is hosting Christmas and he can't sleep where he wants. Yet it is different to be sleeping with someone in a non-romantic relationship. Do the Parents think this is a romantic relationship? maybe it is more difficult for them to know this is only a "friend"?
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Old 09-02-2013, 08:37 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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[quote=thebigW;31242366]"When you're in my house, you'll live by my rules"

My mother was very old school. I lived with my boyfriend and when we were at her house, we slept in different bedrooms. But, when she came to our house, we slept together. Never had any problems.[/quote]

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Wow I have learned two new terms this week now (twerking and Boston marriage).

Anyway, I agree with the majority here, your house, your rules. If your parents are that uncomfortable with it then they should probably stay at a hotel or celebrate elsewhere.
I agree, Your house--your rules.
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Old 09-02-2013, 09:31 PM
 
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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I have no idea what buying a house "back in the springs" means. Is it some kind of vacation area that your family would like to visit and is that why they are imposing on you?

If so, here's what I would do. I'd send home a letter that says "Dear Mom, GalPal and I have discussed Christmas and we'd love to host a family Christmas Day dinner. We've checked out the situation and you can book a room at Hotel X at special Christmas rates. The suite will be big enough for you and Dad in the bedroom and Brother Joey on the pull-out bed in the living room. If you want to give me your credit card number, I'd be happy to make the reservation for you. Let me know what you decide. Otherwise, I guess we'll have to spend the holiday the same place we did last year. Love, Pulaski"

Then, if you want to have your tolerant siblings stay in your extra rooms, make separate arrangements with them.
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Old 09-02-2013, 10:01 PM
 
Location: Niagara Region
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I am wondering due to your difficulty with English that maybe you are not originally from the US and maybe your culture's customs/expectations are different than here in the US? I can't see a 32 year old's parents telling him he he is hosting Christmas and he can't sleep where he wants. Yet it is different to be sleeping with someone in a non-romantic relationship. Do the Parents think this is a romantic relationship? maybe it is more difficult for them to know this is only a "friend"?
goodbyesnow, I'm guessing you've hit the nail on the head. I was thinking the same thing. If the parents are from a more conservative, ethnic background, then I can understand the OP's feeling of conflict and not wanting to directly oppose parents. And in this case, sometimes it's a good idea to get a more liberal-thinking relative, Uncle or Aunt, to step in and defend the desired lifestyle.

It's simply not that easy to say, My House, My Rules... if cultural differences come into play.
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Old 09-02-2013, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Wonderland
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Rather than even TRY to give the OP logical advice, I think I'll just sit back and watch the movie. I mean, this is bound to be made into one sooner or later, right?
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Old 09-03-2013, 08:56 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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Your house, your rules. When you become an adult and set up your own house then your parents rules do not exist for you anymore. They are welcome to come over or stay away. They also have rules they want to live by. Remember that any action or inaction on your part will be followed by an action on their part. Like it, don't like it, but don't let that determine who you are. Live your life and let other live theirs. Still, always keep the invite on the table.
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Old 09-03-2013, 10:15 AM
 
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Rather than even TRY to give the OP logical advice, I think I'll just sit back and watch the movie. I mean, this is bound to be made into one sooner or later, right?
Haha, I was thinking along the same lines. Kind of like a reality-TV show.
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Old 09-03-2013, 12:57 PM
 
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... My parents really doesn't like how I live my life (no stable career, often do dangerous job, no college degree, etc...) ... ..?
Forget who you are sleeping with, whether you are romantically involved or not, whether your parents can dictate terms in your own house, etc! First and foremost, get your life in order for your sake!!!
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Old 09-04-2013, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Plandome, NY
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We aren't in a relationship but we have decided that we do want to live together when we can and when I'm ready, I will eventually live with her for good.
We do share room when we are here and all that.
It sounds like you two are in a relationship of some sort.
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