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Old 09-04-2013, 01:18 PM
 
Location: Canada
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First of all, it was taking me about an hour to an hour each evening to do the dishes, which I was happy to do but a big time commitment after I finished work for the day.
I don't understand why you were unhappy to be relieved of the "big time commitment".
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Old 09-04-2013, 01:20 PM
 
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I don't understand why you were unhappy to be relieved of the "big time commitment".
It's important to me to be helpful and courteous, but I don't find a lot of opportunities to help out. I thought that washing the piles of dishes that accumulated on the counter everyday would be an easy way to help out, and since no one else bothered to do them, it seems like something that was pretty easy and I could contribute to the household.
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Old 09-04-2013, 01:34 PM
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Location: NC/SC Border Patrol
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If you are going to wash the dishes anyway, why have a dishwasher?

I THINK I know which part you are talking about. It helps to take it out and clean it. Looks to me like not doing that could be a fire hazard if the dishwasher heats the water up on the last rinse. A dishwasher that does not bring the water to the right sanitary temperature is not worth having, in my opinion.
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Old 09-04-2013, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I should mention a couple of things. First of all, it was taking me about an hour to an hour each evening to do the dishes, which I was happy to do but a big time commitment after I finished work for the day. Trying to go through and scrub all of the dishes prior to putting them into the dishwasher would have taken an extra 15 to 20 minutes each evening, and I wasn't interested in stretching out the time it spent to clean the dishes any longer.

Also, my MIL didn't actually ever do dishes. She loafed on the sofa and watched TV, and the dishes simply piled up in the kitchen. Sometims there were no dishes for me to use, so I'd have to grab a dirty one from the counters, wash it quickly, and then use it. I'm not keen on following instructions from folks that loaf on sofas and have very specific and exacting instructions for others.

Isn't it rather gross and unsanitary to simply leave dirty dishes on your counters for days on end? Is that really worse than putting unrinsed dishes in a (properly working) dishwasher?
Uh oh...someone has put in a decent word for the MIL so here come the 'big guns'! lol Now, not only is she super picky about dishwashing she's a lazy couch potato on top of it?? Oh my! This stuff just makes me lmao!

This is so petty and very old news. Best be chalked up to you and your MIL differ on how to wash dishes and get on with things. Be glad you don't have to live with her anymore.
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Old 09-04-2013, 01:42 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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Uh oh...someone has put in a decent word for the MIL so here come the 'big guns'! lol Now, not only is she super picky about dishwashing she's a lazy couch potato on top of it?? Oh my! This stuff just makes me lmao!

This is so petty and very old news. Best be chalked up to you and your MIL differ on how to wash dishes and get on with things. Be glad you don't have to live with her anymore.
Oh he is living with her. He just doesn't know it yet. Wait till the kids are bigger and one day he comes home from work and realizes that the cute woman he married had turned into her. LOL
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Old 09-04-2013, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Oh he is living with her. He just doesn't know it yet. Wait till the kids are bigger and one day he comes home from work and realizes that the cute woman he married had turned into her. LOL
You could be right! I know it does happen. lol Reading through all that I kept wondering where the wife was in all of this. Why couldn't SHE step up and do the dishes. Oh, wait...maybe she was already on the couch...hmmmmm
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Old 09-04-2013, 02:57 PM
 
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Reading through all that I kept wondering where the wife was in all of this.
She made dinner each night, and I did the dishes each night.
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Old 09-04-2013, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Long Island
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we use the fastest setting on the dishwasher because having it run for 2+ hours is not my idea of practical. It's called glass x-press mode: "Washes glassware or lightly soiled items in just 30 minutes". So we pre-rinse it and toss it in the dishwasher (it's next to the sink, isn't it?). I think only about 5% of the time have any dishes not been clean. It's a new machine too so it's not due to broken parts.
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Old 09-04-2013, 06:06 PM
 
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Default Let it go....

This is not about dishes. This is about how you felt insulted by your MIL. You can either hold onto that feeling forever and feel hurt and angry, or you can let it go and feel better.

There is nothing your MIL can do to fix this. Two years is a looonnnggg time to hold onto a grudge.
Let it go for your piece of mind and marital happiness.
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Old 09-04-2013, 06:37 PM
 
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This is not about dishes. This is about how you felt insulted by your MIL.
This incident makes me wonder if this is some some of indication of a deeper problem as well. I can't weigh in on either side ... I don't know enough about either of you.

I suppose you just can't use paper plates and bowls sometimes? That's how I dealt with a similar situation. Fewer dishes, fewer hassles. One can even use disposable pans if you don't feel like cleaning a roasting pan after dinner.
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