Do you feel obligated to take care of your in-laws? Why or why not? (wife, spouse)
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Sometimes, you run into in-laws (spouses family) who are more needy, and would like you to take care of them, either emotionally, financially, or physically.
Why do you take care of them, or why do you not?
The baseline assumption for this discussion is that your in-laws are asking something from you that you are more able to provide than your spouse is. So if they're asking for financial help, you are the one who is most able to support, or if they are asking for physical help, you are better able to provide that help than your spouse
I helped care for my in-laws for the past 10 years or so. I did not do it for any reason but because they deserved our respect and help. They treated me like a daughter from day one. From almost the day my husband and I were married and until she died, we helped my mother financially and he loved me enough to do that. I loved him enough to help take care of his parents.
Absolutely. They supported my wife through the first 22 years of her life in every way imaginable. Why wouldn't I support them in a reasonable manner? Assuming that they aren't living in a foolhardy manner, I can't conceive of not helping.
if you are talking about money, our accounts have been joined as long as we've been married. there is no his and mine. if either of our parents needed help, we'd help if able.
my mother took care of her mother in law's finances and care for several years. my dad was there, but it was stuff my mom was just better at so she did most of the bill paying and appointment scheduling.
Yes. You don't just marry a person, you marry into a family. Their obligations become your own. There are no caveats in the phrase "for better or worse". Sometimes, you suck up the worse.
My own husband wasn't terribly fond of his mother, she was in and out of mental institutions while he was growing up. But, he was there when she needed him, and, as his partner in life, so was I.
"Obligated" maybe not
When your spouses's parents become your in-laws, they become part of your family of relatives. Family helps family If you can help, you help.
If your sibling needs help, do you point to your parents and say they should help them, I'm not.
My mother had a terrible relationship with her MIL. My grandmother was mean and nasty to her. My mother still took care of her while she was in the final years of ALS. My grandmother finally came to love and respect my mother, and my mother was able to forgive her. Family is Family.
Not obligated, no.
I doubt that there ever comes a time I'm doing something because I feel I have to.
I would never go broke or give up my own life to do so.
I do what I can, because I want to.
Sometimes, you run into in-laws (spouses family) who are more needy, and would like you to take care of them, either emotionally, financially, or physically.
Why do you take care of them, or why do you not?
The baseline assumption for this discussion is that your in-laws are asking something from you that you are more able to provide than your spouse is. So if they're asking for financial help, you are the one who is most able to support, or if they are asking for physical help, you are better able to provide that help than your spouse
They are considered your family.
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