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Old 09-14-2013, 05:55 PM
Location: Atlanta (Finally on 4-1-17)
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I'm just curious as to what your race is?

I hate to say it but I here this conversation coming from very superficial black women...ALL OF THE TIME.

Originally Posted by Stagemomma View Post
I can't tell you how many professional adults I have met recently with really bad teeth. I don't mean to sound petty or judgemental, I'm just wondering what would prevent an educated employed person from taking care of their teeth.

I've met people with blackness around their gumline where they have crowns. People missing front teeth, people with discolored teeth. I had a blind date recently with a very nice gentleman who is clearly self conscious about his teeth. He was avoiding smiling or would duck his head to the side when he smiled. He KNOWS.

So why not just have them fixed?

And yes, it makes me wonder if maybe I should get my eyes fixed because don't people meet me and wonder "surely she knows those droopy eyes make her look bad."
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Old 09-14-2013, 08:27 PM
Location: Bay Area, CA
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Originally Posted by Catdancer View Post
If that's what the OP meant, she should have been specific. I can read, I saw how she used the term "professional" and that term alone does not mean that we're speaking of people who have gobs of money. A professional can be by definition a person who is a expert in their field....any field. The word can also be used to differentiate between an amateur and one who does something for money.

Social workers, psychologists, urban planners, teachers, surgical or laboratory techs - all "professional" jobs requiring a degree, all starting and often staying in the 40k neighborhood. Even if you're a higher paid "professional", your disposable income is dictated by circumstance.
Yes, thank you for saying that! I'm a professional reference librarian, which is a job that requires a Master's Degree - so there is no debating its "professional status." But we usually make between $50-70K around here, at least in the public libraries, and by Bay Area standards that is slightly BELOW median incomes. Heck, I almost qualify for low-income housing since I'm towards the bottom of that range.

Professional does not equal rich, and like you said, personal circumstances can also dictate how much money is left each month. I can pay my bills no problem, but things like $5000 dental implants, new cars, fancy vacations, etc, are not currently in my budget... and I don't even have kids, so I can imagine those who do are even more strapped.
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Old 09-14-2013, 08:29 PM
Location: Northern CA
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Originally Posted by Escort Rider View Post
What a shame the OP didn't add a few words to the thread title; it could have read, "Why don't people who can afford to fix their teeth?" The true meaning was clear if people actually read the original post, but that would be too much to ask. Instead there is all this defensiveness about how much dental care costs. If I weren't too lazy I would go back and count the number of posts whose main point was the unaffordability of dental care.

The OP was talking specifically about professional people, who by definition can afford dental care, but the thread has been side-tracked into a discussion about how some people can't afford dental care.
She went on a date with a man who didn't meet her expectations so she starts a thread about the psychology behind him not fixing his teeth. She should have asked him.

I wonder what the psychology is behind accepting a date with someone you haven't spent 10 minutes talking to. If she had invested a little time beforehand, she wouldn't have wasted his time and ours.
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Old 09-14-2013, 08:33 PM
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Originally Posted by Catdancer View Post
Wow........how superficial is that? Don't you think that people with bad teeth would rather NOT have bad teeth? Here's a simple answer for you - MONEY. Maybe you have plenty but a lot of people these days just can't afford to conform to your standard of beauty.

I don't know how this could sound anything but petty. It is petty, insensitive, shallow and completely lacking in insight.

You could use a good dose of compassion - go volunteer at a soup kitchen somewhere.

I think it would be better if they started paying for all the dental work for those they feel need it.
That would show much more compassion in the eyes of those they are hoping to impress I'm sure.
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Old 12-30-2013, 09:36 AM
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Default Buck Teeth

Originally Posted by claudhopper View Post
I have buck teeth. The cure was to break my jaw, no thanks.
I, too, have buck teeth and the cure was to stop sucking my thumb, no thanks! To me it's worth it.
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Old 12-30-2013, 11:40 AM
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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One answer to the OP's question is: fear, based on past experience. Other answers: poor supervision by parents and poverty.
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Old 01-01-2014, 10:39 AM
Location: Planet Earth, USA
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The same reason why you don't lose weight, get a nose job, face lift, remove acne scars, get hair transplant, butt lift, etc

People are not perfect and sometimes people are OK with their imperfections.
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Old 01-01-2014, 11:43 AM
Location: Not where I want to be
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Originally Posted by Frihed89 View Post
One answer to the OP's question is: fear, based on past experience. Other answers: poor supervision by parents and poverty.

WRONG..... You don't have to be "impoverished" to be unable to afford braces, veneers, caps, etc. Dental work is extremely expensive and not everyone can afford that extra bill each month. I know that I need at least $15K of dental work done and there is no way, no how I can afford it even on a payment plan.

"Poverty" doesn't equal poor dental hygiene, either. In the past, I had clients who were from the worst ghettos of NYC and many of them had the most perfect, white, straight teeth you could imagine. And it wasn't from having braces or getting caps or anything else. These were people who had nothing but they still had these perfect teeth.

Sometimes, people have bad teeth based purely on genetics and regardless how much they take care of their teeth, the teeth are going to be 'bad'. Also, if you take certain medications, that can lead to tooth decay or breakdown.

You can't lump everything into the box of "poverty and poor parental supervision"
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Old 01-01-2014, 11:57 AM
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It is expensive, but I am guessing many of those cases could have used some preventative care- as in brushing and flossing!

I actually have to constantly argue with my husband to go brush his teeth and have spent thousands on his dental bills (with insurance). Now he gets to have a deep cleaning every 6 months, he acts miserable during it, then after he forgets! It's so frustrating...

As for costs- there are dental schools who do the work for free if you are in a tight jam. I had my teeth cleaned for free (yes it took a few visits) when my husband and I had no insurance.
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Old 01-01-2014, 12:08 PM
Location: Northeast
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People can't afford it..plain and simple. I have health insurance but no dental and the last trip to the dentist cost me
5500 bucks for 2 crowns and a root canal..
5500 bucks for spending about 6 hours in the "chair"! Being a dentist pays well!
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