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Old 09-20-2013, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Florida
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When someone tells me to smile..I give them my best imatation of a horse smile. They laugh.
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Old 09-20-2013, 06:07 PM
 
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Jeez, it's not like they are there telling you to get in the kitchen and make em a sammich. They aren't telling you to go home and clean the house. It's not like they are saying women are the inferior gender, both physically and mentally. They aren't pointing out statistics that say men overall have higher IQs. It's just a dude with a really really bad opening gambit. Smile and move on. That's an order!
Nevaaaaa!
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Old 09-20-2013, 06:37 PM
 
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Ahh... But if you would have calmly read my reply rather than rushing to refute it, you would have understood that my mentioning "the creepy crawlers leering and slobbering on the streets" could have very much to do also with "random men TELLING women" or anyone else to smile or otherwise. But then again, that also is not illegal and certainly not the cardinal sin you seem to perceive it as, while this country is just as free for men as it is for women, who certainly exercise the freedom to ignore whatever they choose, as is the favored practice here in my town.
I don't see how creepy crawlers have anything to do with the men who think it's appropriate to tell women they don't know, and just happen to see shopping or whatever to smile. I did calmly read your post where you were talking about a woman's happiness, smiles and personality. Her happiness and personality have absolutely nothing to do with being told to smile by some strange man. I stand by my reply. No one has any business telling a stranger to smile. No one said it was a sin, or should be illegal. Women have very clearly said that it's annoying, rude and should be stopped. Most women hate having some random stranger tell them to smile, so don't do it, very simple, that should be the end of the discussion.

What do some men insist on endlessly arguing a simple request from women and telling them they are wrong, that they should actually enjoy these comments or they must be an unhappy bytch? Whether a woman walks around smiling or not has nothing to do with her overall happiness level, or her personality. We are talking about strangers telling other strangers how to behave, that's inappropriate, period!

I would ask the men who insist on arguing to stop and listen to what the women here are saying instead of arguing that there must be something wrong with them if they do not like a certain behavior. Why can't some men accept that women dislike being told what to do by random strangers, and agree to stop doing it instead of arguing and trying to denigrate a woman for clearly stating her dislikes?

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Old 09-20-2013, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Lemon Heights, Orange County, CA
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Believe it or not, sometimes men just say things without an agenda. They just say them.
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Old 09-20-2013, 07:14 PM
 
Location: Lemon Heights, Orange County, CA
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When someone tells me to smile..I give them my best imatation of a horse smile. They laugh.
I usually say "show me something that will make me smile". Then of course they are thinking "wait, does this nutter want to see my dick"? Then I say "no not laugh, smile". Then we both run lmbo.
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Old 09-20-2013, 07:33 PM
 
Location: Mesa, AZ
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I would ask the men who insist on arguing to stop and listen to what the women here are saying instead of arguing that there must be something wrong with them if they do not like a certain behavior. Why can't some men accept that women dislike being told what to do by random strangers, and agree to stop doing it instead of arguing and trying to denigrate a woman for clearly stating her dislikes?
Trying to get this to happen is like trying to stuff an angry cat into a beer bottle using only one hand while blindfolded.

Excellent post, btw!
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Old 09-20-2013, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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I never tell anyone to smile more, or suggest it, but I admit I'd rather see a happy face than a sad one.

Maybe just saying "hello" is a better approach to take. I get a lot of smiles that way.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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Would you rather someone say to you "You really should sulk and frown more you ugly hag."
I would like people to mind their own business.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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Jeez, it's not like they are there telling you to get in the kitchen and make em a sammich ...
No, but it's one step away. And it's just as uncalled for.
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Old 09-20-2013, 08:16 PM
 
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I never tell anyone to smile more, or suggest it, but I admit I'd rather see a happy face than a sad one.

Maybe just saying "hello" is a better approach to take. I get a lot of smiles that way.


Whatever the interest might be, whether it's concern over someone appearing upset, or interest in meeting an attractive person, hello is a much better approach than demanding a smile. A simple hello is also much more likely to elicit a genuine smile.
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