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Old 10-03-2013, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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Do you think people with ugly duckling syndrome are the most revenge seeking?

Not as much as jilted husbands with a penchant for firearms.
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Old 11-05-2014, 02:25 AM
 
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Good subject approach, I can answer this purely from personal experience, almost a confession even! Background info, while being dragged through the "hellfires of puberty" I had cystic acne, as a severely underweight teenager I was flat chested right through high school. Wore glasses (the lovely coke bottle type that are strangely
fashionable now), my hair was thin so I could never attain the luscious locks of society's demands. The combination of all of this made me a target for bullies. My previously bubbly happy go lucky personality was stripped down to nothing. And left me with no confidenceor self esteem, so i withdrew and became very introverted. Then one day I was asked by a family friend to be her apprentice in the local salon, (she saw how school had effected me and wanted to give me a confidence boost and a gateway out of the bullying) she was lovely and helped me for the 4 years I was there. I turned 18 and my shape had changed, I went on medication to stop the acne, had my eyes lasered (the best thing I ever did for my vision) my hair started looking healthy and with the help of the salon, I had all acsess to beauty tips, hair colouring and makeup. All was going great and was really starting to gain my confidence back. But that to me unfortunately came at the cost of my dignity as I slept with every man that looked sideways at me, as that was my way of making my newfound looks valid. I found myself becoming addicted to the attention from strangers, after nearly a decade of being oppressed from my looks, it was the ultimate high. I got self obsessed and was fast turning into a jym junkie and surgery addict, that was where it went too far, I could never keep a boyfriend because I was always after the next one night persuit (couldnt handle a relationship out of fear that they would eventually have to see me without makeup) I currently see a psychiatrist to help level myself again. Its a hard road, I just warn others to be smart about attaining a new appearance, dontblet it affect you mentally! Appologies for the novel!
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Old 11-05-2014, 06:22 AM
 
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I went through UDS, as you say.

I'm still me. The same me I was so many years ago.

Although I appear different, I'm not swayed by flattery, I know it is superficial, meaningless - even, and temporary. I avoid people who judge others by their looks as much as I can. When asked to be catty with them, I show them a photo that I have scanned to my phone. I laugh at their reaction.

But, I feel bad for them, too. The shallow miss a lot in my opinion.
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Old 11-06-2014, 04:17 PM
 
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"If you couldn't handle me at my Lindsay Lohan, then what makes you think you deserve me at my Beyonce?" motto.

I'm confused now, she got even uglier?
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Old 11-07-2014, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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I do not think most ugly-ducklings do that. However, I did.

I went through an 'awkward' phase for a few years in my earlier teens. In 10th grade I was sitting in the back of the bus when this girl carried on about how ugly I was, and the laughter. It was the day of doom for her. Within a couple of months or so I started to blossom and groom/dress myself, and was no longer an ugly duckling. For years - out of revenge - I purposely stole the attention of any guy she got interested in until she grew very paranoid of me whenever she set her sights on some new guy.

Finally came the day when she was acquired a new boyfriend that adored her, and I had no desire anymore to play that stupid game. But I can't say that I regret it, either.
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