I'm 21. Can my mom take my stuff, not give it back, and threaten to sell my dog? (person, children)
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Ok. I'm 21 years old, I moved out of my parent's house at 18, and never ask them for anything. I'm in college, (paying for it myself, as well as day to day expenses) and have a steady job as a nanny. About a month ago, the apartment below mine was part of a crime scene, and the police asked the people in the nearby units if they would leave for 2 weeks so that it wouldn't be compromised and could be cleaned, so I asked my parents if I could stay. They said yes, as longnas I didn't bring Aurora, my dog. (I didn't.) Anyway, one afternoon, about four days in, I left my phone on my dresser while I changed clothes, and laptop in my closed backpack in on my bed, in my room. After I changed, I noticed my phone was gone, but I couldn't do anything then, I was almost late to pick up the kids I nanny for, and I went to work. (Both items were completely purchased by me after I moved out) When I got home, the bag was open, and the laptop was now gone as well. When I asked my mom, she told me she had taken them, and when I asked her why, she said I abused them. (To be clear, I'm a senior in college, and go to class from 7am to 2:30 pm. I then have 30 minutes to put my things away and change before I have to be at work from 3:00 pm to 9. I usually have about 3-3 1/2 hours of homework a night, which I do after I get home.) She said I spent too much time using them, and wouldn't listen when I tried to explain that I have to always have my phone with me in case something came up with the children (it's happened before!) and only use my laptop for homework. After the two weeks, I went back to my apartment, but she still won't give me my things back, and now she's staying with me for two days and yesterday, I answered the door and a lady was there saying my mom had sold my dog (whom I bought) to her! I told her the dog wasn't for sale and she said she was going to go to the police! Can the police take my dog? Does my mother have any legal rights to my laptop and phone? Or my dog?
No, your mother has no rights to the things you've bought yourself. None whatsoever.
At this point you need to get the police involved, and quickly, before your mom sells your things. Having receipts to demonstrate that you've bought the items and are paying the phone bill yourself would be useful here. I would call the non-emergency number first thing in the AM and explain the situation. You might also contact the legal office at your university -- they often have help available for students.
It sounds like your mom is not at all a safe person for you to be around in any capacity right now. I hope things work out for you with a minimum of fuss.
Excellent advice, and No to your mom taking your stuff incl your dog (what was she thinking?!), not sure how she could try to sell your dog when the dog wasn't there but that's beside the point, def go to the police today and explain the situation so you can get your dog and other items back, good luck and pls keep us posted
I would file a police report.
Was your mom always like this? It sounds like she thinks you're 12, and I couldn't help but wonder if she is early dementia.
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You sound like you managed to become a very sensible, responsible person despite a very strange mother. She sounds poisonous and I would do what is necessary to get your stuff back, then keep your distance from her.
Or, is there a lot of the story you are leaving out?
Your mom wants to have her cake and eat it too. Sinceyou are self sufficient, she has no right to come into your stuff and take it. If you we're jobless and lived at home and she paid for your phone, that might be another story
Your mom's a nutbag. Tell her if she doesn't return your stuff, you'll be taking her to small claims court. And then do it.
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