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Old 10-06-2013, 04:48 AM
 
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If your wife or husband got into a verbal fight with a family member at a Holiday Celebration would you help him or her make their points even if it would anger the family member from his or her side of the family, or just let them fight among each other and stay out of it?

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Old 10-06-2013, 06:36 AM
 
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It depends on what they're fighting about and who started the argument. If my spouse needed my support, you bet I'd be right there by his/her side.
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Old 10-06-2013, 06:41 AM
 
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If your wife or husband got into a verbal fight with a family member at a Holiday Celebration would you help him or her make their points even if it would anger the family member from his or her side of the family, or just let them fight among each other and stay out of it?
I've done this before. It is a delicate situation, because ultimately, your spouse will side with their family against you. These days I just offer my support, emotionally, but I don't have much of an opinion either way. Not one that I am eager to voice.
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Old 10-06-2013, 06:47 AM
 
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I would try and be a peacemaker to end the drama.
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Old 10-06-2013, 06:58 AM
 
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If your wife or husband got into a verbal fight with a family member at a Holiday Celebration would you help him or her make their points even if it would anger the family member from his or her side of the family, or just let them fight among each other and stay out of it?
Let them fight. However, I will distance myself from them.
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Old 10-06-2013, 07:42 AM
 
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Probably not, but I would try to get him to leave.
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Old 10-06-2013, 08:13 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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It depends on what they're fighting about and who started the argument. If my spouse needed my support, you bet I'd be right there by his/her side.
My thoughts exactly.
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Old 10-06-2013, 08:27 AM
 
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It depends on what they're fighting about and who started the argument. If my spouse needed my support, you bet I'd be right there by his/her side.
right on!!!beachmel
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Old 10-06-2013, 08:31 AM
 
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eh, I and the other gals would walk away and watch from a distance if the brothers got into it about something.
When your spouse is one of 5 brothers you let them work it out between them and stay out of it because they have been working it out all their lives without input from spouses.
I've been part of this family for 10 years now and there has never been a disagreement between the brothers that I am aware of.
Besides any disagreement between these brothers is discussed like the civilized adults they are and a solution is worked out between all 5 of them.
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Old 10-06-2013, 08:38 AM
 
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The rules for us are these: My husband can stand his ground with his family. I will take over with my family. I think that we have an understanding that we are not to impose on other people and if we do, the other will not have our back. That is why I will distance myself. Usually, the "fighters" will see that they need to come back to the party and have fun.

There really are no screaming matches or punching or anything like that.
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