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Recently, my boyfriend befriended a guy from college who is 23.... helped him get a job at his store where he met this girl. I have met and befriended the guy as well, but haven't met the girl. They had a two month relationship where she broke up with him and got back together with him once. He kept making statements to my boyfriend about how he would be the breadwinner of the union and that stuff, so I guess he was serious or something.
Anyway, she broke up with him. He poured a bottle of water in her gas tank. Now it's on facebook that she had to take her car to the shop and had to report vandalism to her insurance company because luckily she had full coverage. It's not really my place to tell her who did it and do hope it doesn't cause her premiums to go up or something.
On all levels, this is wrong. I have told him to essentially grow up because a two month relationship doesn't mean that much and that if someone broke up with him once, he shouldn't have gotten emotionally invested in her the way that he did. However, all he wants to do is talk about how hurt he feels and how you can't quantify a feeling with the duration of time. I guess I get that, but still seems like a bit of an overreaction.
What can you say to someone to show them a little sympathy, while still thinking they're absolutely psycho? I feel like he is taking it worse that his friends also show no sympathy.
I think you need to distance yourself from this guy. He is a ticking time bomb.
The girl probably broke it off with him because he became too clingy too soon. Classic control freak and stalker material. I feel bad for the girl getting her car damaged because this guy is a POS. I think you should tell her, so he will go to jail for it. That is a crime.
Yep, I would unfriend him and move on. You don't know the guy other than what you've seen, and so far you've seen he has vindictive violent tendencies. Get away from him.
He's 23, he's old enough to know better. Some people are just like this and while it is rather noble that your boyfriend thinks he can fix what parents, teachers, and every other person in his life apparently couldn't, you guys are going to be on the wrong end of his crazy one day. I don't know how you can be friends with someone who does terrible things.
Yeah, from what I know about the kid's backstory is that his parents have probably sheltered him and coddled him. At 23, he has still never had a full time job or lived on his own away from his parents... so I don't think anyone has ever really questioned the things that he has done to people. He might have a little only child syndrome, maybe?
I really don't like what he did and part of me really wants to tell her so that way she can look into ways to take care of herself. If he is willing to put water in her gas tank to try to destroy her car, I get the impression that he is probably not above stalking her. he said he is freaking out and knows it was a bad thing to do...but i think he just doesn't want to get caught more than he thinks he shouldn't have done that and it was wrong.
Yeah, from what I know about the kid's backstory is that his parents have probably sheltered him and coddled him. At 23, he has still never had a full time job or lived on his own away from his parents... so I don't think anyone has ever really questioned the things that he has done to people. He might have a little only child syndrome, maybe?
I really don't like what he did and part of me really wants to tell her so that way she can look into ways to take care of herself. If he is willing to put water in her gas tank to try to destroy her car, I get the impression that he is probably not above stalking her. he said he is freaking out and knows it was a bad thing to do...but i think he just doesn't want to get caught more than he thinks he shouldn't have done that and it was wrong.
My best friend in my 20s was an only child and while she was spoiled rotten, she did not intentionally do damage to people's cars because of a breakup.
This kid needs a wake-up call and I think a quick trip to jail is just what the doctor ordered.
If he gets away with it now, what will he be brave enough to do next time?
Please at the very least tell the chick so she can protect herself from him.
Yeah, part of me wants to tell her.... but would it be weird coming from someone who doesn't even know her, just knows about her?
Put yourself in her place. I would definitely appreciate the heads up.
I would just FB her a message saying something like, "You don't know me but my boyfriend is friends with your ex and he's the one who put water in your gas tank, and he is still talking nutty stuff about you. Just wanted you to be aware that he seems kinda unbalanced, in case he tries something else."
I wouldn't want to be friends with somebody who pours water in somebodys tank.
Exactly. Don't have any more to do with this guy than you have to. He could do it to you next. This guy is at least very immature. I also question your BF's involvement with him. He should be cutting ties too.
Are you people CRAZY?? Don't suggest that she tell on him.. He is going to know who told then get some sort of revenge on her or her boyfriend. They are probably the only two people he has told..
Just cut all ties with him and insist your bf does the same.
Get far away from that mess!
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