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I'm spending the week with my sister who is 10 years younger than me (she's 20) and I'm finding it so hard to talk about ANYTHING with her because we're at such different places in life.
She's young, single, no kids, obsessed with music, hair, fashion, celebrity gossip details, shows and bands I don't care about, and she's 100lbs overweight... I've got two kids, a mortgage, don't care about hair and fashion, listen to the radio on occasion, and my only hobby is fitness.
We get along just fine, but conversations are getting rather awkward because we don't have ANYTHING in common.
What do you do? How do you talk?
It is frequently hard to have conversations with people who have ONE hobby.
My brother is 16 years younger than I am. We are both fit, and yet we never talk about it. We have lots to talk about because we are genuinely interested in the other person. So even though he is living the single life as well, we still have meaningful conversations are real friends.
I'm in my late 20s. I have a sibling 4 years younger. We got along great after I moved out for college. I also have a brother and sister that are in their late years of elementary school. We get along fine. I'm a big kid at heart, so it's not a problem. I live 12 hours away from home, so I only see them 2x a year now.
I'm spending the week with my sister who is 10 years younger than me (she's 20) and I'm finding it so hard to talk about ANYTHING with her because we're at such different places in life.
She's young, single, no kids, obsessed with music, hair, fashion, celebrity gossip details, shows and bands I don't care about, and she's 100lbs overweight... I've got two kids, a mortgage, don't care about hair and fashion, listen to the radio on occasion, and my only hobby is fitness.
We get along just fine, but conversations are getting rather awkward because we don't have ANYTHING in common.
What do you do? How do you talk?
I don't know about you, but as a younger member of the boomer generation, I like to extend a bit of understanding and grace to those younger than myself, and maybe you could do this for your sister. Especially since she is family. I could see being 30 and having a younger sibling like you describe and feeling a bit "old"(?) next to her. Though 30 is outrageously far from old..people carry surprising emotional baggage about aging.
She is an aunt to your children, so there's a common bond. Has she expressed an interest in getting to know her neices or nephews? Maybe the two of you can plan outings for children and both of you attend. Since she's young, I'm sure the future concerns her.
If your kids are girls, maybe they would enjoy their aunt helping them find new hairstyles or fashions.
Maybe you could begin a dialogue with her about where she would like to be at 30. Maybe she has been waiting for a family member to express an interest in her this way and she would respond to your attempt to be a kind of mentor to her. At 30, you have life lessons and insights to share that could help her. Maybe this will open the door to willingness to make some changes in her life now, like moving toward improving her health through fitness.
Keep up the relationship. She is at a different point in her life. You'll have more in common in five years and way more in ten. When you have nothing left, all that's left is family.
I'm spending the week with my sister who is 10 years younger than me (she's 20) and I'm finding it so hard to talk about ANYTHING with her because we're at such different places in life.
She's young, single, no kids, obsessed with music, hair, fashion, celebrity gossip details, shows and bands I don't care about, and she's 100lbs overweight... I've got two kids, a mortgage, don't care about hair and fashion, listen to the radio on occasion, and my only hobby is fitness.
We get along just fine, but conversations are getting rather awkward because we don't have ANYTHING in common.
What do you do? How do you talk?
I guess I do. I am 39, almost 40, and my sister is 53. I have a brother who is going to be 51 in a couple of days, and a brother who is 46. I also have a sister who is around 56 or so. So yes.
Right now I am closest with the sister who is 53. We never have a hard time finding things to talk about when we are together. We have both lost our parents and we both have children. We have both been married and divorced. She has grandchildren, I do not.
I suppose if you asked this question when I was 15, it would be different. I had my first child at 20. I am not sure how close we were back then, but I was never into fashion and all of that. I grew up pretty quick.
OP, when she gets a little older you will probably have more to talk about, once she has experienced some of the things you have been through.
My sister and I have been like oil and water over the years, but these days, other than my SO, I would say she is my best friend. I cherish the time we spend with one another. I should probably let her know that. We are never promised tomorrow.
My brother is 26 years older than me - yes, I was a very late life surprised... my parents are in their mid-sevenities.
Anywho, we do connect and stay in contact. Only downside is that he moved to Europe a year or two before I was born, and has been there ever since. We've spend holidays together several times, but it's a hard gap to bridge when we're all busy.
Anyway, we generally stay connected on Facebook, Skype, etc. I'm also very close with my three nephews who are all around my age.
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