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Old 11-07-2013, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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After attending my wife's boring company Xmas dinner last year both of us agreed that we will skip the next year. This year she is insisting that we both attend again. I reminded her of last year outcome but she just want to be there for "body count". We have two kids and I would rather be with them and my wife can go to the dinner by herself. I do not want to go just to be part of the body count. Please advise.
Good point to bring up in your defense. Who is going to babysit?
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Old 11-07-2013, 04:51 PM
 
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ive seen many a married ladies,(at company parties) having one too many drinks,,,getting hit on by 5 other guys and she loves the attention


if this is no worry and its just a "show" party- then i dont blame you

if the shoe was on the other foot-what would she do?
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Old 11-07-2013, 04:55 PM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I think (just my opinion, of course) that it sort of looks bad for your wife to attend a dinner without you. She will spend the whole night explaining, every time she sees someone, where you are. It's awkward and sort of dull for her to not have you there to talk to. It might make people wonder if the two of you are breaking up, or just not getting along. I don't know if you care, but people will talk behind your back and come up with all kinds of scenarios with no basis in fact.

Does she do things for you when she really would rather be doing something else?? I'll bet she does...just suck it up and go.
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Old 11-07-2013, 05:00 PM
 
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I think (just my opinion, of course) that it sort of looks bad for your wife to attend a dinner without you. She will spend the whole night explaining, every time she sees someone, where you are. It's awkward and sort of dull for her to not have you there to talk to. It might make people wonder if the two of you are breaking up, or just not getting along. I don't know if you care, but people will talk behind your back and come up with all kinds of scenarios with no basis in fact.

Does she do things for you when she really would rather be doing something else?? I'll bet she does...just suck it up and go.
I'd agree - I did alot of company functions alone years ago (husband was active duty military so I had a "good" excuse. You going makes her look better unless you're going sulk or pout all night about it.
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Old 11-07-2013, 05:34 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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If she needs to go, and she also needs you to be her escort, then you should go. You'll live through it. If it doesn't matter whether you are there or not, then I don't blame you for wanting out of this obligation. But often we have to do things for appearances. Its part of adulthood.

She will probably have to accompany you sometime somewhere she doesn't want to go.
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Old 11-07-2013, 07:40 PM
 
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I have stayed away from my husband's company dinner in the past because I am a wimp about having a person I don't know babysit my daughter.

Anyway, they ask him every year, "Why didn't Elyn come? It's your fault isn't it?"

I would go if I didn't have babysitter issues.
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Old 11-07-2013, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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Sometimes in life we have to do relatively unpleasant things just because it is the right thing to do. It will go a long way for your wife's image if she shows up, and it is only once a year. If you can't suck it up for that little amount you can bet when the tables are turned your wife will remember you not being there for her.

But I have a golden rule when it comes to company functions................I DO NOT DRINK A DROP ! So many people have enjoyed themselves a little too much at company parties and it has ended up costing them dearly. Drink when you get home, but stay sober and watch every word you say and everything you do while at the function.

Don
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Old 11-07-2013, 10:15 PM
 
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Don't do it. Be with the kids and I'm sure your wife can squash any inquiries about your absence. You're a grown adult, you shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't want to do. You've already done it last year. I don't bring my s/o to company events I must attend nor do I go to her. I respect her enough to not even want her to come.
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Old 11-07-2013, 10:48 PM
 
Location: Long Neck,De
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If other spouses were there I would go with my wife. A few hours once a year attending their party is not too much to ask.
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Old 11-07-2013, 10:54 PM
 
Location: Long Neck,De
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But I have a golden rule when it comes to company functions................I DO NOT DRINK A DROP ! So many people have enjoyed themselves a little too much at company parties and it has ended up costing them dearly. Drink when you get home, but stay sober and watch every word you say and everything you do while at the function.

Don
I'm partially with you there Don. Getting drunk at a company party is not good.That image will stick with you for a long time. I will however have a few drinks to mix in and be social. Following my rules....Never drink on an empty stomach....Drink slowly and definitely the third drink is the last. When I say slowly I mean I will sip on a drink for an hour.
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