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i have a different take on company parties- this is one of the very rare ocassions that employees get to socialize, with each other, not be in a work environment- so i think it is very team building-just to have the employees there- once you enter the spouses, all new dynamics, a lot less joking around..
i stopped going to company parties years ago,,,,one of the wives got offended, because she felt left out of a conversation between two male employees, she made a scene, and left- kinda threw cold water on the whole party-everyone felt so bad for him
its almost like going to a class reunion- sometimes you have a much better time without the spouse..
of course it all depends on the workplace and people.... and if the employees socialize during the year-go for a drink after work,,,etc.
some workplaces-everyone seems to hate each other, and they definitely want their spouses their...they know it wont be fun,,,but its a political, must do
Parties like that are often no fun, that isn't the point unfortunately. It is often an office politics thing where you need to just be there and be seen. I'd advise you to go, suck it up for an hour or so and not worry about it again until next year.
It is once a year for a few hours.
Why was it boring?
Did you not talk to anyone?
Perhaps you could go long enough for dinner then take your wife dancing afterwards or for a drink and some alone time before you head home to the kids.
Don't do it. Be with the kids and I'm sure your wife can squash any inquiries about your absence. You're a grown adult, you shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't want to do. You've already done it last year. I don't bring my s/o to company events I must attend nor do I go to her. I respect her enough to not even want her to come.
You do things for other people even if you are a "grown adult", and they are not always things you would choose to do on your own. She is his wife, and if she wants him to attend, he should.
My husband and I had to attend many company dinners, if he didn't want to go with me, that was fine, same went for him.
In fact, 80% of the dinners did not even include the spouse, we both had to entertain clients/customers in our respective fields.
In this case, it would appear that the wife isn't even interested in attending, if they go, it will be all about the "show". IMO, the bottom line is, if he wants a peaceful holiday season, he should go.
You do things for other people even if you are a "grown adult", and they are not always things you would choose to do on your own. She is his wife, and if she wants him to attend, he should.
So if his wife wanted him to jump off a bridge then he should right? She is his wife. Big whoop. You say that like his wife should be able to make him do anything. No if he doesn't want to go then no. This is supposedly a free country. No, you do things for other people because you feel obligation to conform. He is a grown adult so he doesn't have to feel obligated from anyone. Just because you do what society tells you to doesn't mean he should.
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