Do you hold grudges on people from high school still? (reunion, dysfunctional)
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It takes at least 10 years -- maybe 15 -- for all the high school nonsense to fade away. I wouldn't give this person another thought for another 10 years, at least.
Yeah I agree any bitter or hard feelings fade after 10 to 15 years. I'm now over 20 years removed from high school I would see any surprise contact from former classmates as an invasion of privacy more than anything else at this point.
I don't talk to anyone I went to high school with much less hold a grudge. I don't even remember the names of the people who tortured me in High School. They aren't worth it. Just move on.
I actually have had several people apologize to me for various things over the years, and I always look at them completely bewildered because I can't remember a damn thing. I was never bothered by bullying when it was happening, and I certainly don't elect to remember crap, haha. I'm happy to remember my good memories! Why would you hold onto anything less?
This disagreement happened when I was in 11th grade. That's going on 6 years ago. I have no idea how someone could still be so angry for that long. Like get over it.
I graduated from high school in 2009. I'm a 22 year old guy. There are a few people (mostly just one girl) that hates me so much that she blocked me on Facebook. I ran into her the other day and said Hi and was just trying to be nice and she says "ew" and gives me a dirty look. but we graduated over 4 years ago. We are all grown now. Anything that happened in high school is just that. I was a senior in high school 5 years ago. I don't even remember why this girl is mad at me. I know I shouldn't let it bother me now, but my school was small so everybody knows everybody and talks to each other. I have a Facebook page and have seen people I went to school with, but wasn't sure if I should say hello or anything because I don't know how they would react.
Am I just overreacting or do some of you still hold grudges from people you went to high school with?
Overreacting... Just smile and laugh when someone acts that immature and move on. "Facebook, what's facebook?" (That's the attitude you may want to adopt).
Last edited by ciceropolo; 11-15-2013 at 11:29 PM..
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I have some issues with people I knew in high school, but these people are either dead or will likely never be in my life again. Those differences can't be patched over and I've moved on, but that doesn't mean I'm okay with what happened.
All the inconsequential drama is in the past. Occasionally I'll get some really odd comment or friend request on Facebook, but I blow it off. Oddly enough, I didn't really know the person I'm now closest with from high school back then. We're still close and I'm still in love, but it had little or nothing to do with our shared high school experience.
Overreacting... Just smile and laugh when someone acts that immature and move on. "Facebook, what's facebook?" (That's the attitude you may want to adopt).
Thanks. I actually deactivated my facebook for a while just to take a break from it.
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Originally Posted by Emigrations
All the inconsequential drama is in the past.
That's how I feel. I remember that this incident happened in 11th grade. I remember that she completely ignored me the rest of that school year as well as all of senior year and that's all I remember. I know she blocked me from Facebook because I can't see her posts on our mutual friend's statuses. All I see is my friends talking to themselves. If I saw her again, I would apologize. I just think it's ridiculous to be mad about something that long after high school.
To the OP I would say, yes, it's a normal thing for people to carry grudges well beyond graduation from high school. Fortunately, you are out in the real world now, and can make real friends and forget about some of those jerks from school. If some person still holds a grudge against you for whatever reason, it's on them to work through it. You were both kids and they should get over it already.
I was bullied a lot all through school. I hated some of those kids and fantasized all kinds of vengeance. I'm over it today, several decades later, but I'm sure the scars are still there. There are some things you just can't forget, and forgiveness is not easy. Still, life goes on. If I ran into any of them today I'd be polite and gracious and we'd probably have a merry old time reminiscing.
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(That's the attitude you may want to adopt).
