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Old 12-03-2013, 04:19 PM
 
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Have you seen your father cry? Yes



Would you lose respect for him or question his manliness? No, it's stupid to lose respect for the man that raised me, taught me, loved me and supported me just because he shed a few tears.

If that's what it takes for you to lose respect for your pops then you never respected him much to begin with.
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Old 12-04-2013, 12:07 AM
 
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I never saw my dad cry in the 23 years that I knew him. Others said they had seen it, but I never did. Guess it was a man afraid of looking weak in front of his son or something.
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Old 12-04-2013, 07:25 PM
 
Location: Lake Norman, NC
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I saw my Dad cry a little here and there in the days following my Mom's death and burial. I was pleased though to see that the love he had for her was so strong after 50+ years of marriage.

My kids got to see me cry a bit too when I received the call saying that my Mom died. We were in the car making the four hour trip to be by her side for the final time after the doctors summoned the family. Sadly, we were still a couple hours away when that second phone call came. I just felt horrible about her death and for not being there in time to see her one last time.

I don't think anyone thought any less of Dad or me.
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Old 12-04-2013, 08:36 PM
 
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The only time I saw my dad cry was then my youngest sister fell in a spa at a friends house when she was a toddler and was in a coma for little bit afterwards. I never lost respect for him, it actually let me know he cared about us because he rarely showed any sentimental emotions.
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Old 12-04-2013, 09:17 PM
 
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There is nothing unmanly about a man crying. Its a perfectly normal emotional response.
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Old 12-05-2013, 03:44 AM
 
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Every single time he watches 'Touched By an Angel'....'What Would You Do'.

Etc


Which is more often than you'd think possible!...esp now that he's retired.

He seems to enjoy carrying on this mammer...


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Old 12-05-2013, 09:31 AM
 
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I feel sorry for men who are afraid to show their human side for fear they will be less manly. I actually respect a man who isn't afraid to shed a few tears when something moves him.........I know I have and will continue to do so. This macho myth thing is ridiculous.
Don
Me too (unless they do it all the time - same if a woman did it too).
I was only 15 and my father and I had an argument (first and last one ever). I felt bad
about it the next day and went to him. When I began to say I was sorry, his eyes were
starting to tear up. We hugged and each said I love you. He was a wonderful & loving
father and a few months later he died (in his early 40"s). It is still hard to talk about
him and his passing to this day.
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Old 12-05-2013, 09:43 AM
 
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My dad cried all the time, especially when we would watch films with a strong father/son connection. He never had it, so it would always make him tear up. He would cry when he would fight with my mother. He would also cry whenever he and I would argue.
Aw your dad sounds sweet.

I've seen my father cry, not too often though. He cried when the family dog died a few years back, when his BIL died and most recently when his cat died. He was also on the verge of tears when my sixteen year old brother got in a car accident. He held it together when he arrived at the accident but I drove him to the hospital where my brother was bc he was nervous. When we got out of the car he almost broke down. I had to hold him up. He didn't quite cry but got close to it. My brother was fine thank goodness.
He's cried for other reasons as well, I just can't remember.

My grandfather was more of a crier. My brother takes after him.
I've seen my husband cry a few times.

I have more respect for men that can show emotion that for men that can't. I've always respected my father, grandfather, husband and brother when they've cried. I don't think any of them are less "manly" because of it. One of my best friends is a man, and on my wedding day he was ushering people in as I pulled up and he broke down into tears when he saw me. It was really sweet. He's like my brother.
Men that cry are extra manly to me. =)
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:31 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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Yes. When while watching President Kennedy's funeral. He was a tough WWII vet and that was the only time I ever saw him cry. Did I think of him any less "manly"? Of course not.
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Old 12-05-2013, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Pérouges
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Would you lose respect for him or question his manliness?
Ridiculousness personified.
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